Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

It is wasteful she was right. The fact you don’t see this makes me think you’ve got form for it?

I'm guessing this is a reverse OP?

Did you stay to tidy up??
Or take one sip of a coke, leave it there and sat okayyy bye!

I used to go on holiday with a friend and her (12 year old) daughter who was like this and it drove me mad. The daughter would open a bag of crisps, eat one, then leave them out to go to waste. The same with drinks. I didn't say anything but really wanted to at the time!

Who says the host would have wanted a diet coke at that precise moment? Far better for the op to wait till she got home for a sip of diet coke. Doubt she'd be so wasteful in her own home.

You friend was right and it should be you apologising.

I’d have been annoyed at you too but probably wouldn’t have said anything. Your friend has apologised so there’s not really any more to it but in future I wouldn’t open a can of Coke for a single sip!

I think it would have been nice to ask first before snapping open one of her cans. I don't see any mention of doing that. That would have got me pissed off to start with, and when you just took a sip and plonked it down that would have put the lid on it, and you sound a bit sort of thoughtless. How old are you?

Hangovers rarely make for good relationships. And she's had a bunch of people hanging around her, along with probably a fair bit of cleaning to do.

It was unappreciative of her hospitality and an utter waste. Completely thoughtless IMO. I think you should apologise.

Yummy, a tasty glass of the OP's washback spit and flat Diet Coke (unless the host wanted to drink it then and there, in which case fizzy washback and Coke).

Unless this is a reverse, unsure why the host apologised.

You acted like a child tbf

You were really wasteful and quite rude though. Do you not think so?

You were really rude, and she's apologised to you!

You should apologise, I can't believe you haven't, 'sorry I was hung over and not thinking'.

She's had the grace to apologise even though she was in the right - 'like a child' because it's a childish thing to do and if a kid did it you'd tell them off so why is it fine for you to do it?

Agree with everyone else.
Particularly if she lives in the middle of nowhere. You really appreciate the waste when you can't just nip out to grab a drink.
Its pretty rude to leave it in the mess also. Anyone that stays over normally helps clear up in the morning not add to it.

You behaved badly, own it, learn from it and move on…

She was in the process of cleaning up after offering you hospitality and you didn't even tidy your rubbish away?

If anyone should be annoyed, it's your friend. Are you always so wasteful or just with other people's stuff?

It was rude of you to open a can, take one sip, and then leave it lying about for someone else to clear up, so it was fair enough for your friend to call you out on it.

I am constantly telling my son not to open a can of drink, take a few sips and then leave it. So wasteful. However, if a friend did it I would grumble inwardly to myself but not say anything. Your friend is right though, it is wasteful and also pretty disrespectful. Why open it for one sip, thats just so entitled.

Not sure why she apologised as she was completely in the right! To open a can of pop, have a sip and leave it there is so wasteful and rude to the host!

Sorry YABU. If you were going to open a fresh can of coke as you were thirsty, you could have at least taken it with you when you left, otherwise why not just have a sip of water?
It's wasteful.

Your friend is extremely unreasonable for apologising.

It was a waste, she was right.