Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

Friend really didn’t just ’have a go’. They picked up on an actual thing, OP was being thoughtless with the host’s generosity and very rude. Creating wasteful mess right on your way out of the door is way too childlike to be acceptable, so it willl be taken as quite offensive. Host was right to be annoyed.

It's not so much about the coke as OP's complete lack of manners and awareness. You obviously share her graceless personality.

I agree that what you did was unreasonable, it was a waste.

I would rather have a friend pull me up on something at the time than let things fester; or worse tell other people behind my back.

To me, she seems like a good friend to have.

Hundreds have answered your question and you've been equally rude to everyone you've responded to.

Yes, you were unreasonable. No, your friend was not. You should apologise. Your friend shouldn't have. Your friend(s) will one day realise they dislike you and that will be that.

I think the OP is really really young based on these responses. As in 15/16. Op I am 39 and always take something for the host ie flowers or a bottle of wine. All of my peers do it too.

Funnily enough, that’s the kind of things my kids do. Many people may have been too polite to say anything, but your friend was correct in her opinion (assuming the can was not bought and paid for by you).
If you wanted literally 1 sip of something you could have easily had a sip of water, why open a whole can.
But the thing that would annoy me most is leaving the can (whether you bought it or not) for me to clean up. And I wouldn’t have apologised.

What on earth is wrong with you?!

It was wasteful and absolutely selfish of you!

I’m not surprised your friend said anything. Are you always this entitled?

Good. Bertie never took gifts to all those house parties he went to.

you are acting like a 4 year old,
wasting food!

Your friend said what anyone else would have been thinking . You were rude op.

I think the apology is meant to give you maximum opportunity to say it was your fault which, on the whole, it was.

Are you 12?

Seriously this has to be a school holidays post because no grown adult could go through life being so pig ignorant

Please don't say this, pigs are really intelligent and better behaved.

Would this behaviour be more or less acceptable if it had been a bottle of Bollinger?

This. All of it.

As if she didn't have enough mess to clean up after a party.

Instead of staying to help with the clean up (as good friends do and especially those who slept over) you added to the mess by dumping your one sip can of coke down like Lord Muck.

This ^

This is the post that cemented my thoughts that OP is clearly that nightmare friend who thinks nothing of taking swipes at people and just blunders through life being a self centred diva oblivious to others. No wonder friend apologised for something she didn't need to, it's easier than waiting for the next strike out. That friend you walk on eggshells with because they're childish and don't like the truth.

Just very telling when someone comes on here to ask a question and then all their replies are just taking swipes at others.

It’s the ‘no I’m good thanks’ comment that is so galling.

The host politely challenged the OP by giving her an ‘out’ and a reminder about the drink and to take it with her but the clueless and rude OP either doesn’t have the social graces to appreciate what the host is saying or is THAT entitled, ignorant and disrespectful of others that she more or less stated, ‘nahh, I’m good thanks. I only wanted a sip, enjoy the tidy up, byeee’.

You need to do some serious work on yourself. This isn’t so much about the can or coke but your ignorance and the way you treat orhers (which is clearly evident in the thread).

I think the OP started this thread in relatively good faith but now has gone in to defence and attack mode so it's all become a bit pointless.

She will keep being who she is, loving sheep and drinking a sip of coke, and the people around her will make their own choices.

I think the Op isn't happy having realised that people feel she is bad mannered. And possibly quite a few of her friends are. Which is what tipped the host over the edge.

Not sure how old Op is as they say 'People my age don't take gifts for the host'. But my daughter of 20 would always take something for the host when their friends get together. As her friends do when she hosts them.

For me it's not even finishing the drink. It's opening it then leaving it on the side for the host to clean up. After she hosted and had them all stay over. The attitude of "I don't want it so you clear it up" is so rude. And really shows what Op thinks of her friend.

The op has a two options from this thread.

1. Learn from it.

1. Don't learn from it.

The people in her life will make their own choices about the type of behaviour they want from friends. Too late in life I made a decision to remove all the takers from my life, and I'm happier for it. I am hoping I've brought my girls up to be more assertive with takers sooner.

Seriously 🤣

By that token, the friend could have drunk the leftovers. She could have decanted it into a bottle to preserve the fizz

No, the sound of you opening the can is the sound of you buying a whole can.

@Sethera

she probably didn’t want to do that seeing as OP’s has had her gob on it. I don’t want to eat or drink things that has other people’s spit in.