Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

Ummmmm YABU

She's probably sick of you doing shit like this.

Even worse I've had a 'friend' come to stay and leave things behind that she didn't want anymore. One was a book. I asked her if she thinks I'm a dumping ground. Haven't had her round since.

She spoke to you like a child because you acted like one, my 16yo has better manners than you.

She's had the grace to apologise for her tone, which I don't think she should have. Get over it now, it's stupid to still be angry about a situation caused entirely by you.

Wow, your behaviour was bad and wasteful. Who does that? Takes one sip and leaves the can.

I'd have been very annoyed. I might not have said anything to avoid a scene, but I'd have wondered why you did that.

....I think that this might be a rare, or possibly unique, instance of every single person on the thread telling the OP that she's in the wrong.

And now someone will tell her she's the victim, just to break the run. Damn.

Oh my goodness, my children do that. I am teaching them otherwise because it is an absolute waste. Your friend is correct. It is an expensive thoughtless waste.

I’m with your friend on this.

It was wasteful and then to just leave it there presumably for her to clear up as well it a bit off.

I think it was very good of her to apologise, she obviously realised it wasn't worth falling out over and is being the bigger person. She was annoyed because you were annoying - now you need to act like a grown up and apologise for your behaviour.

This must be a reverse, surely?

She has apologised. Move on.

It makes life so much harder if you hang on to trivial annoyances.

She's right, though. I wouldn't have apologised.

I'd have made a comment too (but wouldn't have apologised after!)

This is a complete non-event and happened almost a week ago. I think you need to stop thinking about it and stop feeling annoyed!

If you were both hungover and tired then I wouldn’t give it another thought. You were dozy and thoughtless and she was arsey. It happens

No need for her to apologise. You were wasteful.

My husband doe this, does my head in.

I don't think the friend was arsey. She stated a fact: "What an absolute waste"

What should she have said instead?

(The OP was very blazé about wasting someone else's stuff. I bet she's not so relaxed when she's the one who's paying.)

My first reaction too. Or even if it’s not OP will come back and say it was because people are not agreeing with her and she is obviously unreasonable

Reminds me of my cousin who came to stay with me for the weekend. I left a fresh towel for her in the bathroom. She came out of the bathroom and asked if I can give her another one as she dropped this one on the floor 🫳🏼

Your friend was correct to confront you, there’s people without food and drink and you’re wasting it so freely. I would be so embarrassed if my kids took a drink and didn’t finish it at someone’s house never mind a grown adult.

The only thing that your friend has done wrong is to apologise! It was a non event and she stated a fact. It was wasteful.

Another in agreement that it was a complete waste and she did nothing wrong.

She didn't have a go, didn't speak to you like a child and yes, you were in the wrong.

Did you thank her for the party and hosting you?