Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

So you do this at home do you? Drink one sip out of each of your cans because you can't possibly know how thirsty you are until you've opened a can and sipped from it? Do you do it in cafes too? Have a sip of your coffee, thirst quenched and off you go!.Assuming you are a teenager too - surely adults don't act like that?!

You have to be a troll or just extremely immature. The thing is, don’t bring a pathetic argument to Mumsnet if you aren’t going to take in what people are saying. You asked us and with a resounding YES you are being unreasonable as well and rude, arrogant and immature. Grow up as it’s embarrassing

And what is your age? You still haven't told us.

Team Friend here too

The can is a sunk cost! It doesn't matter how much of it you drink once it's opened.

If you buy a chicken pie for dinner and halfway through eating it, you're full, do you force down the rest of it just to avoid the waste?

Sorry to say but I agree with OP here.

The norm around here is you bring something for the buffet or you bring something for people to drink. But you don't bring chocolates or flowers for the host. If you're having 10 friends round you don't really want 10 bunches of flowers taking up space or 10 boxes of chocolates to sit in the cupboard.

But, OP was rude as hell to crack open a can, take a sip and expect someone else to tidy up after her.

If this is true then you were very rude OP, and I expect everyone talked about you after you left, and how rude you were. I’m shocked that you can’t see this is scummy behaviour.

What is the point of your post? It is clear that you have zero interest in reflecting on your behaviour. You think she is wrong and that you are not rude despite 96% of votes saying you are and 100% of the comments agreeing. You are rude. You behaved disrespectfully in front of your host. You can disagree with that all you want, but that doesn't override what your host and everyone else think about your behaviour. Your friend only apologised because she has manners. Did you bother to offer to help clear up before you fucked off?

Of course it does. If you only want a sip you don't open it in the first place.

Of course not. You eat leftovers then next day or whatever. You don't waste them, obviously.

@Sethera do you really not understand?

If you buy a chicken pie and you’re full after half of it, you’d probably put the rest in the fridge and eat it later.

If you’re at the home of someone who has hosted, and as you’re leaving you open a fresh can, take one sip and abandon it - you’re basically rendering a can of drink undrinkable for anyone else, when all you wanted was a sip. Why not get a small amount of water from the tap, if you’re not that thirsty? Why waste a whole can?

By that token, the friend could have drunk the leftovers. She could have decanted it into a bottle to preserve the fizz.

I'd feel the same as your friend. I can't stand waste! Just don't open the can if you won't drink it all (or most of it). My DD has a friend who'll stay over. If we give her a croissant or pain au chocolate, she'll take one bite and bin the rest! Drives me mad! Someone else could have had it.

This thread is going over the top now! All she did was take a sip from a can a coke and then decide she didn't want it any more! What's petty and odd is not accepting the friend's apology. She was a bit grumpy over a can of coke, but now she's apologised. Why not just accept it and move on? Why start a thread about it on mumsnet?

@MyNameIsFine it was a scummy thing to do - open a fresh can, slobber on it, then put it back, making it unpleasant for someone else, and therefore wasting a perfectly good drink. Rude behaviour. But yes, I agree, the worse part is that despite the friend (unnecessarily) apologising, OP thinks she has the moral high ground.

Your responses to people's comments explain exactly why your friend spoke to you like a child. You have wrote this on Aibu so yeah you were, not to have a drink in general, but to open have a sip leave it and then be confused as to why your friend got annoyed. If anything you should have just taken it with you? Don't think it's that big of a deal, however, in future I'd suggest taking a bottle of water so things like this don't happen again. Clearly bothered you since you wrote a post on aibu about it so take water next time and avoid the issue, that is if you are invited.

Ridiculous overreactions on this thread - you'd think OP had shat into the can.

Me too 😊

Imagine coming on Mumsnet and making up a story as you are so bored and pathetic ans have nothing better to do. You sound like someone with limited intelligence. Get a life

The "AIBU?" where the poster asks the question and refuses to acknowledge the many answers really does irritate me.

Yes, YABU. You should have taken the drink or finished it.

This wouldn’t be beyond the stretch of imagination given the level of manners she’s displayed thus far.

This is definitely one of my 'Mumsnet is a parallel universe' moments 😄

Is that you @coldayscientist? Time for your beddybyes dear.

No, I'm not the OP - I expect MNHQ could verify that if the thought is seriously troubling you.

Get over yourself op! The correct thing would've been spilling the coke at you. I would be furious, why did you think it was ok to open a can to take 1 sip?? U sound extremely immature. Glad u got
Told off, she shouldn't need to apologise bc u don't seem to know how life works

It's a stupid question to ask someone. You don't give away what you would do.