Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

I think it’s a bit selfish to open a canned drink, take one drink then dump it for someone else to clear. Why open it if you didn’t want it? Why were you expecting maid service after?

Just wow. You sound like you’re about 12. Grow up and.start acting decently towards people

I grew up with very little everyday was fish finger and mash with bake beans. I appreciate what I have and would not waste anything. I was under weight when I was child. I wouldn't let anything go to waste I know what it's like to be poor.

Well - I was born in the 60s, and I still believe in politeness and good manners. In time, you might learn that old fashioned politeness makes life easier - it smooths social interactions. And the opposite is true too - if you get a reputation as someone who is rude, ill-mannered, and ungrateful, you may find yourself losing friends.

Being boorish is not, as you seem to believe, something to be proud of. I would be ashamed if any of my sons acted like you, or sounded as rude as you. But the poor things have had my old fashioned politeness instilled in them.

It's not going to be the decent bits left over for you to piss on, is it?

She’s defo out trolling. Claiming to have been embarrassed and mumbling sorry for opening a can of Coke and then coming on here to argue with people. Aye right.

OP. Have a party, supply everything and invite all of us. We'll be sure to take a chuck out of all the food, a sip out of every drink and then just leave it. Lets see you fester. Cheeky fecker.

Probably why she was pissed off, you sound like an awful guest. Good manners aren’t reserved for those who wear pearls, live in cul de sacs or the 1950s. Never turn up empty handed, always offer to help, always say thank you when leaving and the following day.

What age are you?

I’m suddenly really thirsty.

Totally agree

Me thinks you want an argument.

I agree with your friend.
Childish and wasteful on your part.
Have you always been this annoying?

Still didn’t answer the question though.

No one my age amongst my friends (beyond contributing in food or drink) brings a gift.

What’s a chuck of food?

I think you sound not only rude but immature

That does not make it right. It just means you have friends who are almost as rude and immature as you (at least they contribute food/drink).

Hopefully you will grow up one day.

If you were thirsty just as you were about to leave, have a glass of tap water. If you really fancied Coke, opening a new can for just one swig and then leaving it, is both rude and wasteful. I am guessing you are young OP so all these are life lessons! You asked people’s opinions so don’t be defensive if you get honest answers!

In a hungover state I could have seen my younger self doing something like this. But I now agree with your friend, it is a waste.

I go away with my friend and her kids a few times a year and as a treat we buy cans of coke. By the end of the week I find half drunk cans all over the apartment, drives me batshit as a, it's wasteful and b, it's expensive stuff to take a sip and leave

OP AIBU

MN YABU

OP no I'm not, then acts like a badly behaved child.👧

You sound so very charming and lucky to have any friends 🙄

This!

But, did you do any of the other things? I am guessing the answer is "no", since you only decided to mention one thing.

P.S. Everyone knows it's not 1950. Bringing a gift for the host is the sign of being an adult and a person with manners. The year is meaningless.

I would hope that neither of my DSs opens a can of coke, takes a few sips and then leaves it. What a waste.

You were in the wrong to do that. Your friend was a bit blunt - I wouldn’t have said anything to a guest. I would certainly have said something to my DS. She’s apologised. You should apologise for wasting the can.