Parents new “friend”

[Itllbealrightonthenight]

I feel uncomfortable about my parents new friend, let’s call her Tracey.
My parents are in their early 60’s, both retired and have plenty of friends and family around them. Almost overnight this Tracey has become part of their everyday lives. Tracey is 26 and according to her, has crappy parents which is why my parents have taken her under their wing. She drives to their house for dinner several nights a week, goes shopping with them, goes to the gym with Dad 3 times a week. I met Tracey for the first time recently and she was pleasant enough but dismissive of me and made no effort to get to know me. I made a conscious effort to get to know her and make her feel welcome - because my parents have grown close to her. But she wasn’t interested and actually made me feel like the stranger in the situation. To my shock she repeatedly called my parents Mum and Dad. That made me feel really uncomfortable around her and I’m suspicious of how quickly she has formed this deep bond with my parents. I can’t help but question her motives. My parents have accepted her life story as she tells it- a neglected child. But the reality is she’s 26, an adult and my parents don’t actually know her yet. She lives with her Dad who she says isn’t supportive. Her mother is elsewhere and she too doesn’t have a good relationship with her. Apparently.
Im suspicious about her intentions and also peed off that she and my parents have totally disrespected me by allowing her to call them Mum and Dad. They’ve known eachother for 6 months!
Thoughts?

U need to start stalking Tracy. She's well
Up to something. First thing. Get cameras up
In your parents
Home. Hide a
Couple. Get in her
Fb insta, find out where she works, speak to
Friends. Anyone who on fb she's maybe has an argument with msg them and find out the other side to her. This is not normal. Get doing the detective work. She is after
Something. Start checking ur parents
Bank statements, follow them when they go out. I know it's is very stalkerish behaviour and usually not good to do but u need to protect ur folks. If in a couple of
Months down the line tracy clears their bank or
Savings or changes their wills u will not forgive urself.
Red flags all
Over this! Cameras now! Today!

I'm another one wondering if she really IS his daughter. If not, this is beyond weird.

I certainly won’t be installing cameras in my parents home, checking their bank details or stalking Tracey and her friends.

It’s highly unlikely Tracey is my Dads secret daughter. Tracey is a completely different race to my Dad and from photographs I’ve seen of her actual Dad, she’s the spitting image.

I'm really puzzled as to why the OP finds the latest developments as 'comforting' and why it 'gives her sympathy towards them'. I would have thought that the tattoos etc and public displays of a truly weird relationship being played out on social media would be extremely concerning evidence of things being ramped up to a bizarre and dangerous degree. Is this for real?

Who is the Mum in the scenario of the car being washed?

Her Mum?

Otherwise why should she need to bring it round unless she has access to your Mum's car?

If this is real/not a prank by Dad & Tracey then your Dad is utterly pathetic-& your Mum goes along to keep him happy?

No wonder he does it then!

@diddl

You make a good point and I’m inclined to agree with you.

Ive realised that I missed out a line in the message exchange between my Dad and Tracey.
After Tracey asked if he intends on washing my Mums car, she asked if he felt like washing hers too.

All very strange!

Your parents are relatively young. If they still have their mental faculties, they are entitled to do as they wish. However unwise it might seem.

I agree with you Boomer55

I'm holding out for the next update where Tracey is sleeping in the middle of the OP's parents bed and sitting on her Dads knee at the Christmas family get together, but it's all good because her parents are very intelligent and independent, and what is the point of talking to anyone at all about it to ask wtf is going on.

Bloody weird

I would be very wary of Tracy. My in laws were older than your parents, but after my Father in Law had a fall they got a carer in, to help him wash and dress in the morning and get ready for bed in the evenings. This man quickly insinuated himself into the family to the extent that when DMIL had an operation we went to the hospital to find him sitting by the bed announcing "Well they went in through the vagina...." To this day the thought of him discussing that about my very private DMIL makes me cringe.

They had a large double garage and the carer's brother started storing furniture in there. Then all of a sudden this carer was gone. IL's wouldn't say what happened just that FIL was upset that he had suddenly stopped coming.

What I do know was that after they died I found they had taken a substantial equity release at about that time and I could not find a trace of the money ever going into one of their bank accounts.

Also when the garage was emptied of the brother's furniture, it was also emptied of some expensive fishing gear and FIL's extensive tool collection (he was an engineer.) We also never found any trace of FIL's very expensive camera equipment.

As I say be very wary of Tracy. You might see your capable, healthy parents, she may see them quite differently.

Has your dad ever shown signs of this kind of behaviour before?
it just all seems SO bizarre and unlikely for a previously very sensible man - has he got form for anything similar/having a hero complex etc? I cannot fathom how anyone would think this wasn’t really strange - the tattoos update has literally got me thinking this can’t be for real?!

WTAF!! This was already bizarre but the latest update is completely bonkers and far from normal.
I’d be absolutely incandescent about this with parents and Tracey and I’d pulling out all the stops to throw a grenade into this “relationship”.
in your initial post you said your Dad denied that she was calling them M&D and now she has them fucking tattooed on her!!!
Surely this is an opportunity to revisit this question with your Dad and call him out on it and the disparity between the attention he shows for Tracey and his own fucking family!
I’m raging for you OP and they absolutely do not deserve empathy!! 😳😳

This is too bizarre. Show us the photo with a part of the tattoo OP.

Tattoos?! Who does that?!

I too think it may be or bordering on becoming and affair under the guise of daddy/daughter relationship. I thought I read somewhere you said she was quite tough etc so it’s interesting he’s referring to her in a little girlie way and she’s lapping it up. It’s like they’re both trying to make you jealous. Has he any siblings or mates who could tell him he’s making a proper twat of himself?! Un-hinged is the word.

Sorry OP, this sounds horrendous. She’s got him under her spell and as he has a daughter already who he’s not alienated from the most likely reason (unless she’s told him her mother claims he’s her father?!) is that she’s not gay, or is buy willing to do him certain favours

So she's got their names, children's names, address and dates of birth. She's certainly getting a lot of information that could be used to access finances.

what a fake thread. So you are not doing anything then. OK, what next? Us to discover Tracey is not a gay but bisexual with a flare towards strong old men.

This is so bizarre!

As another poster has pointed out, their dates of birth are actually private/personal info that could be used fraudulently.

If your Dad isn't one to be advised on things, would talking to your mum be more fruitful?

WoW wee! What a story? Film? Documentrey? Who knows where this will end?

I don’t believe my Mum has much of a part to play in it, she goes along with whatever makes my Dad happy.

Aaah, this sounds more likely -superhero Dad , And DM going along with it.
But I’d still get a private detective as the behaviour of Tracey is pretty weird.
Id also give an impression to DM that you think there’s more to it then a father daughter relationship - I’m sure others will be wondering that too.

In a situation where a friend's brother was trying to get her removed from their parents' Will through manipulation, she went to Age UK to report Elder Abuse. They were very helpful, recognising that I think the tattoo detail could be enough to prove that there is manipulation happening, along with all the other signs.

Just saw your update, OP - thank you. How absolutely bizarre!!!

Have you considered hiring a private investigator? I know they're costly but I wouldn't be able to help myself. Before she drains them dry.