Parents new “friend”

[Itllbealrightonthenight]

I feel uncomfortable about my parents new friend, let’s call her Tracey.
My parents are in their early 60’s, both retired and have plenty of friends and family around them. Almost overnight this Tracey has become part of their everyday lives. Tracey is 26 and according to her, has crappy parents which is why my parents have taken her under their wing. She drives to their house for dinner several nights a week, goes shopping with them, goes to the gym with Dad 3 times a week. I met Tracey for the first time recently and she was pleasant enough but dismissive of me and made no effort to get to know me. I made a conscious effort to get to know her and make her feel welcome - because my parents have grown close to her. But she wasn’t interested and actually made me feel like the stranger in the situation. To my shock she repeatedly called my parents Mum and Dad. That made me feel really uncomfortable around her and I’m suspicious of how quickly she has formed this deep bond with my parents. I can’t help but question her motives. My parents have accepted her life story as she tells it- a neglected child. But the reality is she’s 26, an adult and my parents don’t actually know her yet. She lives with her Dad who she says isn’t supportive. Her mother is elsewhere and she too doesn’t have a good relationship with her. Apparently.
Im suspicious about her intentions and also peed off that she and my parents have totally disrespected me by allowing her to call them Mum and Dad. They’ve known eachother for 6 months!
Thoughts?

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The Sixth Commandment was a TV series.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Sixth_Commandment_(TV_series)

Based on real events. It happens.

Middle class with Emma Thompson and Colin Firth as the parents.

If this is for real then Tracey is definitely taking your parents for a ride and they are paying for the petrol too!

Show your mum and dad stories online about grifters and long term scams. Would also agree this could be cuckooing where eventually your parents home will become a drug den. It's blindingly obvious this is dodgy but there are many people who fall for these scams.

Do you have other family members you could discuss this with too?

Hurlingnovice · Today 10:53
In this day and age it's easy to find people online. Do some internet snooping on her.

Assuming they’ve given their real name. I wouldn’t, if I were scamming people.

Yabnu.i would be deeply concerned about this. Do a bit of digging, find out where she lives etc. Google her full name if you know it.
As stated above speak to you parents. Make them aware of cuckooing, if they don't already know. Does Tracey have a job?

Could you take sneaky photo and do a reverse image?

I would absolutely second the private investigator idea. If she is legit (whatever that means in this context) she will never know you did this.

Have you siblings, have they noticed anything odd @Itllbealrightonthenight

It sounds like the book Apples never fall by Liane Moriarty or similar anyway.

OP it is really really odd! I don't blame you for being wary

You need to see them alone. Tell them, this is too much too soon, I do not care about who you give money to or spend time with but I do care about you. Her behavior has all the hallmarks of grooming you so that she can benefit financially or emotionally by alienating you from your family. Ask if they believe that it should be ok to say no to someone occasionally, suggest they do an experiment and say no to Tracy one time, and see what reaction it gets and assess for themselves.
They are adults, speak to them about it as adults. Don't back off because of her hostility, keep going, keep being present with her and them. Show her they are not an easy mark.

Thank you! I knew it reminded me of something. Watched the Apples Never Fall TV series a few months back.

Your father is already talking about changing his will? That’s unusual. Most people don’t change their will to include a new friend.
I would be concerned she had brought it up with him and she is planting ideas.

I would definitely tell your parents how odd it all is and that her behaviour is not appropriate.

She seems to have really embedded herself in their lives. The way she blanks you is almost like you are getting in the way of her private time with her mum and dad and she doesn’t want you there. The calling your parents mum and dad is really worrying. Sounds like she’s play acting some sort of lacking in her real like. I would not be comfortable with that at all. They are not her parents and she needs to back off. The Will is deeply concerning. They seem to have been flattered into this arrangement so much that they can’t see how weird it is.

Do those actually work? I only ask because I did one on myself with a super clear picture and got nothing. I would have what I suppose would be a reasonable SM presence

They've changed their will to include some random they've only recently met? Really?

Sharing more details of what? Who are you talking to @Itllbealrightonthenight ?

Re your OP/scenario. Sounds awful. Nothing you can do about it though. Your parents have their own minds/own lives. All you can do is watch, as you have already said something and they won't change anything.

A fairly similar thing happened to my dad. I tiptoed around it for too long, trying not to upset him, worried that if I pushed too hard about it would push him away and even more towards his new "daughter." It was scary how quickly she became so important to him and it wasn't long before no word could be said about her, or that he would brazenly lie about what was happening. She fleeced him for almost everything he had, and I am no contact. If I had my time again or if I was you, I would be round there all the time. Don't let her get any more comfortable. Be as much as part of their lives as she is. I would be blunt about my concerns, I would press and press for answers about who she is, where she works, how they met her. I was very close to hiring a PI. I should have done and I wish I had. Don't let it go. If she's like my dad's "daughter" right now she is a parasite, but she will become a barnacle and will be so much harder to remove the longer you leave it.

Stalk her, find out everything you need to know. I bet she's not who she says at all. Probably doing it to a few people going round getting gifts off old people and taking her family off on holiday with the proceeds.

This all sounds so bizarre. I’d be uncomfortable with it too.

Have you tripped yourself up by asking yourself to 'share more details of this?!'

Seems very odd. Are you sure that one (or both) of your parents isn't having an affair with her?
Regardless, they are not really elderly and unless there is some reason they are particularly vulnerable or you have evidence that she is taking a lot of money from them, there is not much you can do.

I would also be concerned. As others have said, increase your visits to them. Have them over to yours more often. Invent jobs you need their help with to keep them away from Tracey. If you make it harder for Tracey to get her claws in, she might think it's too much hassle and will move on. Good luck.