Furious with DD's swimwear

[FFSTeenagers]

Someone talk me down please!

On holiday with elderly parents and elderly in-laws - wonderful people. 15 yr old DD has emerged from her room to go to the pool in 5he smallest of bikinis. I can almost see her vagina.

I feel fucking ancient saying this. I hate myself for even feeling like this but she has zero modesty.

I bought her 3 bikinis (together - we went together) from Roxy and Next - lovely ones. Not one has arrived and instead she has bought, without my knowledge, 4 from shein that are not for her curvy build. Barely any material and I'm really embarrassed.

Confronting her has gone downhill rapidly and she's claiming that I'm hardly a feminist as 'she should be able to wear what she likes as it's her body'. She's not bloody wrong but what the hell happened to my daughter's modesty.

My parents and in-laws are sensing the atmosphere already and we only arrived an hour ago.

AIBU?

OP, YANBU

She is curvy. She has boobs and hips. Curvy means curves, not being overweight in this case.

REALLY??

Yes. REALLY.

God that’s cruel

???? In the south it is still the norm. It is also common on the Atlantic coast.

I hope this isn't offensive, but in the context of this thread it took me a moment to process what you meant by "she has ASS"...!

This argument would never work with my teenage daughter. Cue rant about living under the thumb of the patriarchy, why should she have to dress for men, particularly pervs, who should be locked up anyway, she will not change her behaviour or what she wears to help men not commit crimes, and you call yourself a feminist, blah, blah, blah, blah…..

Only on Mumsnet could a 17 year old dating a 15 year old be considered grim but a 15 year old displaying everything be fine.

I don't understand how it can be fine for a child to wear something that essentially encourages men to look at them in a sexual way. She's not old enough to fully understand what that means.

The OP is not asking for her to wear a full swimming costume. Just a bikini big enough to cover her privates.

Feminism doesn't mean you get to walk around basically naked imo.

Modesty isn't a bad thing. Not sure why we are teaching girls that being half naked is a reasonable thing to do just because they want to...

Bit ageist.how dk you know what they feel? Very patronising

How is it ageist - granddad has avoided her

😂

Cancel the vulva.

First of all she knew what she was doing bringing only the Shein bikinis, so she probably expected a telling off. She thinks she’s got you over a barrel so you have to make it clear she hasn’t. Tell her you will buy her another bikini to wear whilst on holiday. She can cooperate and have a choice, or put up with what you buy for her.

In the meantime if she wears the Shein bikinis without a decent cover up she can’t sit with you, eat with you or hang out with you.

She doesn’t get to ruin everyone’s holiday by embarrassing the adults who are paying for it.

If it was a display of feminism to wear this then wouldn't that need to be in your natural state i.e with all the hair that should be there?

Perhaps she'll get to find out by the end of the week. Just hide her razor.

I would find out where you can buy another bikini - or swimsuit, if she likes swimming - and go and buy them asap.

Sadly, and confusingly, that is now all the rage.

“OMG mum, you’re so OLD, this is how they’re supposed to be worn, having you been living under a rock?”

🙄

😂

She's a child and her grandparent is uncomfortable.

When did this become controversial!?

This is a very good point, that I shall be using in a few weeks time. Thank you!!

I very much doubt the bikini doesn’t cover her privates.

i’ve seen skimpy bikini’s, and none have ever not covered the essentials.

would I prefer a bit more coverage? Yes. But I suspect o/p’s daughter feels the same way I did when I was desperate for a mini skirt. Mum took me shopping and bought me an M&S two inches above the knee version, when I wanted the mid thigh one from tammy girl. If I had had internet shopping then no doubt I’d have bought myself the one I wanted, not the one my mum thought appropriate.

What do you mean what the hell, as you weren't specific? This clearly faked porn influenced image influencing young girls? Worrying. Very.

She's growing up and experimenting, try to compromise with her. Look at swimwear together and negotiate. Or tell her that she needs to bring a cover-up beach skirt with her. We were all there once.

Have you met a teenage girl?! My teen has ten bikinis... 😂🙄😬

€8.49? Good grief where is the fabric?! Much cheaper to stick some gaffa tape over the nips, arse crack and fanjo, you'd get the bonus of a wax too, and more likely to stay on in the pool.