in trouble with DIL again

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my DIL posts on insta and facebook multiple times a day, always about the baby, baby has been to this class or that event, always happy smily pictures, but they do get annoying after a while.

anyway, i've muted her.. we also have a family chat, and i use this to catch up with things on a regular basis.

i received a message last night asking why i hadn't commented on her post about the fact that baby had chickenpox and that didn't i care about him? i mentioned that i 'must have missed it'...

we'd had a chat on our whats app group earlier that day, and there was no mention of chickenpox there?

so i've had to go to inta, trawl through her many posts and comment! its ridiculous. it seems i can never do right for doing wrong!

AIBU by not commenting on the post?
YANBU she should have simply told me when we chatted earlier in the day?

@Bluebirdover ive never had a trusty side kick

You argue with customers, you get warnings from work.

You argue on here.

You talk about "anxiety" that you bring on yourself.

Go and do something with your children, it's the school holidays after all.

Oh my this thread really is the gift that keeps on giving.

@Bluebirdover you win the award for being the most goady and condescending poster I have ever seen on this platform 🏆 32 posts on this thread and almost all of them drip with arseholery. I hope you're gleaming with pride.

Thank you

Takes a 🙇

I love that you counted, when I get 15 mins, I'll confirm the number is correct.

Thank you 🙏

@Bluebirdover you over-estimate my spare time 😂 I didn't have to count. I just pressed the filter button and the info is there.

Not on the app, maybe I'll try the desktop.

But I'm still very grateful to you.

🙏

Just tell her you're not using social media much anymore..
then browse till your heart is content

Not remotely unreasonable. She sounds exhausting and a complete attention seeker.

I would not be accepting a berating about bloody instagram. I would message her and say that if there is something she feels you need to know and she needs support then please update on the family WhatsApp. You don’t use social media a lot, check it every few days and will assume anything that’s on there is low priority.

She’s not coming across as upset that her son or DiL didn’t tell her about the CP.

She’s pointing out that she was pulled up for not caring for her grandchild because she did not comment on a FB post.

Not everyone uses social media in the same way that her DiL does.

Is your DIL gen z, or very young? If so, it’s the way they communicate maybe - if it’s on social media then it’s communicated, what other form pf communication does she therefore need to use? None, to many in that generation.

Well they are 30's

OMG this sounds exactly like my DB and SiL!!
We had a big blow up about it a few years ago when I got called to a meeting with my DB and he raised how SiL was upset that I hadn't liked any FB posts about my DN.... 🤨
Huge row ensued, but since then, I am mindful to like any posts I see that she makes about DN. She also makes a lot of nonsense posts which can be very cryptic, and, quite frankly, dull as fuck!
I simply don't have the time or energy to involve myself in those.
But would you believe that they now don't like, comment etc., on ANYTHING that I post about my DD! 😂
Tbh, I find it hilarious that these people in their 40s can behave so immaturely. I actually give no fuck's at all. They can do them.
Madness how some people's lives revolve around social media!
Think I'll buy them a jigsaw for Christmas 😆

She sounds like a classic vague booker, with the nonsense posts!

I've seen some dreadful ones!!

You say you can't do right for doing wrong, but then the only thing I can see you've said you've done is muted her? Not exactly a friendly move.

The OP explained that she couldn't cope with the volume of posts on social media: she's in touch with the DIL, son and grandchild via other means, including an interactive photo frame which gives all the photos of the grandchild in any case.

@Poddledoddle ... then you have not read all my comments! As others have said... I'm in communication daily with Ds and DIL and have another means to see every single photo of GC.

Sometimes reading the whole thread helps

This is what jumped out at me too.

OP has explained that she's NOT annoyed at pics of her grandchlld: she can't cope with the sheer volume of posts on social media, with the DIL expecting her to respond to them all.

100 percent agree. I could look at a hundred posts a day about my grandkids and never feel it was too much. Very strange

another one not reading the body of the thread!

Cancel the cheque

@Bluebirdover good morning 😂

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