If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

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My DD 10 asked me this out of the blue? And asked me to promise I never would! (She'd watched some programme with new stepmum in it).
And it got me thinking. I don't think I ever would at least till they were grown up) as I don't think my kids would like it. But maybe that is a bit martyrish of me. I wonder what others think.

As mentioned by someone above, I would definitely date and have fun, just wouldn’t be interested in cohabiting or having them involved with my family.

No idea, really. I genuinely admire women putting themselves ‘out there’, though. It’s a skill set I’ve definitely lost in the romantic/sexual sense, though I’m good at making friends. I think I’d like some unproblematic no-strings sex, if it were on offer.

Yes, I would miss having a man in my life and in my bed .

No. I wouldn’t have moved in with another man or brought another man into their lives if I’d ended up divorced or widowed when my children were children.

Now they are teen and young adult, I feel the same, but for different reasons. When they were younger it was about protecting their peace and them not having ti share their home or lives with a man who wasn’t their father.

Now, I would just never want to live with another man and cannot think of any reason I’d want to remarry.

I might date or even have a relationship, but only if the guy was on board with not shacking up together or marrying.

Nope … I love my husband, but if anything happened I no wish to ever live with a man ever again

Depends on age I think. I’m in my 50’s and none of my divorced or widowed friends want to live with a man again - not a single one.

And as single older women I can tell you the picking out there are very slim indeed so the chances of meeting anyone worth marrying is remote.

My sister was widowed and then surprisingly did remarry a couple of years later. I would say her first DH was not her ‘great love’. DH is my great love, I feel lucky I have experienced it, I don’t need it again. But I’m 58 now, it’s very different to being widowed at a very young age.

Absolutely not. Bunch of self affirming knobs, for the most part.

(🍷 has been drunk)

unlikely.

I adore my husband: I don’t think I’d ever love anyone else as much.

also, from reading/ hearing about other people’s partners: it’s put me off.

finally, I want to make sure all my assets (and DHs assets) go to our son when I die

Nope. My DH has multiple myeloma with co-morbidities. He is effectively dying. We could have 6 months or 6 years dependent on how fast he relapses etc or if an infection gets him first etc.

i would not want to share my home with anyone else, I have no desire to ‘learn’ a new partner etc.

This!

Out of love, no, most definitely not, just no one would ever live up to DH.

Because I want to, absolutely not, see above.

For money, Anna Nicole Smith style, maybe, I'm not going to lie, I wouldn't rule it out if it meant security, I'd do what I have to.

No. I'd be heartbroken to lose DH but I'd move on in time to embrace a single life doing exactly what I want, when I want. Plus, new in-laws..I just wouldn't have the energy.

Nope! Absolutely not!

I've been widowed for eight years now and had a very happy marriage.
While I would quite like some male company, I haven't got round to doing anything about it - terrible procrastinator. Like @Shudacudawuda I can't imagine anyone equalling my DH. I don't mean the same, I mean equal.

That apart, I would never live with a man, nor permit them to live in my house. I like my own space and would never compromise my DD's inheritance.

Nope

Thanks for the replies And so sorry to those who have lost their DH 💐

I was just so surprised my DD asked it as I've never really thought about it before.

Nope. Married twice. If DH dies I would be single focus on my job children and family. I don’t think I could find anyone as generous kind and have the same kind of “fit”. Additionally I’m well off financially and I fully intend only to finance myself and my children as I age. I found it difficult dating in my 40s and I can’t imagine doing it later in life. I would also be very interested in living near my adult children and not want to live elsewhere for new man.

When I was younger, yes. Now I unlikely. Maybe someone I saw regularly where we dated, but lived apart.

No I wouldn't. Dh isn't perfect but we fit. I really don't think I would be comfortable again (36 years together).

Can't remember where I heard it but -

Life is like a box of chocolates - leave it too long and only the weird nutty ones are left.

Yes I would, if i fell in love again. Of course.

This with bells on.

I honestly don’t know because I can’t predict the future.

No.
I've had a long (35 yrs and counting) marriage and I love him but I am am not dependent on him for my happiness. I also like my own space!
Plus I have an adult autistic son who will always live with me so would be reluctant to let anyone into my home who didn't love him too.
I would probably have more cats and dogs though

@farmergirl15 you were still very young so it makes sense. If my DH died in his sixties as he is now, it is a very different scenario.

I really can’t imagine it, the thought is too heartbreaking. But I guess maybe I would eventually.

my DF married twice after my mum died - once when I was a child and once when I was an adult. Neither lasted but I’m glad he tried to find happiness.

i think my kids would struggle but maybe I’d wait until they were much older.