If your Dh died or you got divorced do you think you'd remarry

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My DD 10 asked me this out of the blue? And asked me to promise I never would! (She'd watched some programme with new stepmum in it).
And it got me thinking. I don't think I ever would at least till they were grown up) as I don't think my kids would like it. But maybe that is a bit martyrish of me. I wonder what others think.

Never. I doubt I would ever live with a man either.

God no. But I would have a lot more animals

No. I'd not risk the assets.

I'd rather wait until DD was moved out and just have some fun boyfriends that might or might not become long term.

I have the best DH but should we no longer be together for any reason, I would like to be single. I have a lot of friends and hobbies and don't really have any appetite to compromise on anything, even as simple as having to have a conversation about what to make for tea when I don't feel like thinking about it yet.

Sorry men!

I don’t think I would. I certainly wouldn’t be actively looking for a relationship. I suppose there’s a chance I might meet someone in the normal course of life, but I’m not sure I could be arsed.

I agree. I actually don't think blended families are that positive for children unless the new partner is an improvement on a negative situation. I also think there is statistically a risk of abuse from step parents. I say this as one. I think unless my children expressed a wish for me to meet someone - some children do prefer it - I would wait until they were at least 18. I think acting in a child's best interests does sometimes mean putting your own needs on hold or being discreet about relations and not involving them. I wouldn't have had children if I wasn't prepared to put them first. I'd be concerned too that relationships could fail. I understand even relationships with bio parents can - but I wouldn't want to risk them having multiple different people to get to know and lose.

That’s the reason I stayed single @Newmumatlast , apart from not being interested lol. ExH inflicted seven ‘girlfriends’ on DC in one year - what an absolute wxxkertron.

DC (and being able to give them a leg up when I’m no longer here) are my absolute priority, I don’t need a man to make me happy, fulfilled or financially solvent. I certainly don’t want to carve up my modest assets.

Same. I have no interest in men other than my bloke.

I'm so pleased to hear this. It must have been devastating losing your husband and if you found someone you love, you deserve to act upon it.

Na might have a friend with benefits thing going on as I like sex but not the whole relationship thing.

I married and divorced, never thinking that would happen. I have remarried never thinking it wills happen.

So, yes…I probably would remarry at some point. Or at least have a long term relationship.

I'm late 40s, slightly rocky marriage with 2 preteen kids. I cannot imagine being bothered enough to date if I was on my own again. I have enough on my plate with work, kids, house, elderly parents. But I think it's impossible to commit to saying a blanket never, as it could change when it happened, or a year after that, or 10 years.

Honestly I wasn't even a great catch in my 20s and found it hard enough to meet someone then. I can't imagine men falling at my feet in my 50s. I doubt it would be an option anyway.

No I wouldn't. I would definitely want sex and maybe a lovely relationship but, in my mid 60s and 40yrs married, I wouldn't marry or share my home on a permanent basis again.

Never say never but I'm not sure I would remarry or live with someone else.

Date/be in a relationship though yes, it's nice to have that someone in your corner. It's hard work though so I don't know if I could be bothered with online dating but meeting people organically would be good.

Never. They broke the mould as they say, I’d never get as good again.

Dating, yes. Living together or marriage, firm no.

Haven’t RTFT. My children are mid-late teens so they’re rapidly gaining independence and I think they’d understand if I had another LTR or remarried as my step-Mum was a lovely Grandma to them (my Dad was a widower).

But, I honestly couldn’t be bothered with another serious relationship. I wouldn’t mind going out to things with someone, but living with them-no thanks! I’d be happy to be thoroughly selfish and not have to share my space with a man again.

I would remarry but I wouldn't get involved with someone who already has kids, and I wouldn't have a child with my new partner. It would be too complicated for me.

I'd also love back to be near friends and family so I'd have more people around me.

I don’t think I would but it wouldn’t surprise me if my husband did if I were to die- men often seem to do that.

Even if I did eventually date, I wouldn’t combine households until the children left home. I wouldn’t bring someone else into the home with girls- it feels like a high risk to their health and happiness.

I don't think anyone can say until they've been there in that moment.
I divorced and then met my now dh. Were were adamant we'd never marry but we did eventually and were very happy

But some of us are in that moment, as in happily divorced for a number of years with no desire to or making an effort to change it.

I wouldn't marry again because I wouldn't want any doubt at all about who my next of kin would be (my DD). I would be very reluctant to move in with someone because I don't want any doubt at all after I die about who inherits from me (again, my DD, even if we were to fall out). So it's hard to imagine wanting to. But lots of people say that and then change their minds later.

I would never tie myself up in the legal noose of marriage again.

A relationship yes, but separate homes. Welcome to stay at mine, and vice versa but there would be rules around that !

Also, I think I would really enjoy living on my own and having control over my own space. I have only met one bloke I wanted to share living space with and I am married to him.

Sorry to hear this (Farm accidents are shocking) but glad to hear all ended well and you had a daughter too