Husband thinks boob job using inheritance is dumb

[Uhjo]

I received a small inheritance from my grandmother. Dh and I have agreed a couple things it will go on ( mutually beneficial). With the remainder I said I will look into getting a breast lift. Dh has stated how much a waste he thinks this is but equally said it’s your money.

For context, I like my boobs but ONLY when they are in a bra (so that’s why dh considers it a waste). I’m 130 pounds but wear a 32 e. I just hate the way they hang. But it is easily solved by wearing bras. So I do kind of see the point. With the size of my boobs it’s not like I could wear a tight top and go braless. That’s not the goal.

I’m 31 and just want to love my entire body I guess. DH suggested I go to Turkey but I would rather stick to a UK surgeon.

We are not in debt and own our house. Of course there are loads of things that the money could go on.

Is it silly? I guess I am concerned my judgement is clouded and I am being controlled to a certain extent by an insecurity.

I would honestly try and get a reduction in the NHs first. They will eventually cause you back pain and a reduction and lift would likely solve that.

I’d do a reduction and a lift, to avoid them starting to sag again in 2 years. I don’t think it’s silly to get them done at all.

I thought you were getting implants. If you are getting a lift I would say go for it - just be aware you will have scars, unlikely be able to breast lift and may lose nipple sensation. But definately do it in uk.

Painful, dangerous, expensive, unnecessary. What's next? It seems to be addictive. Do one thing and you spot something else that needs slicing a la Katie Price 😱

I wouldn't risk my life under a surgeons knife because of things that you can control .

Remember they will need replacing in ten years.

Definitely spend it if it's what you want!

HOWEVER if you're planning to have any more kids, they'll change again drastically, so it'd be a waste of money.

I'd get it, but wait until you're done having DC

Yes this. I know too many people who have had problems after having operations or dentistry abroad.

@Uhjo do it. I definitely would

I've also got b8g boobs, lost weight recently and they're looking a little droopy. I've considered surgery and might well go for it if they start to make me feel self conscious.
It's your money, spend it however you like.
Go get some new tits girl! 😁
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If your body hurts from hauling all that boob around unsupported then can you find out if a lift will help with that? Whether you go braless or not, if it reduces painful drag and you are not risking your life unduly then why not? The money is a bonus- any inheritance is. I would not go overseas for any surgery except in the case of it being life saving. You could have complications after returning and a local surgeon treating you for such would have no idea of how the surgery was performed which means they are in the dark about what could go wrong.

Perhaps your husband is blessing you with "I love you just the way you are" but you do you- wonderful to have in a husband except I don't agree with the Turkey or any overseas elective surgery. Study results, become informed, see at least two surgeons before deciding - know what you are getting into cost and healthwise and what the risks are. A breast lift or any surgery for body image issues, with the exception of some that restore what has been lost to cancers, accidents, etc. will not restore how you perceive yourself. If you are not emotionally whole with liking yourself then after the lift surgery you will find something else to pick on about yourself. Best of wishes in your decision making.

Your husband clearly likes your boobs the way they are 🤷‍♀️ I suggest you learn to love them too

I’d love a boob reduction. My reasons are similar to yours. No one would begrudge me -
i’m a K cup - and you sound really miserable. Just do it. Safely, in the UK.

Before I had routine surgery, my GP warned me that I "could die on the table".
I knew that because I have had 2 friends die following routine surgery. The risk is small, but real.

What do you mean no one would begrudge you?

I’m now a 32F after having my daughter. Still breastfeeding but once I stop I also want to look into getting a lift.

I go braless now. They obviously don’t look as good but you definitely do not need to wear a bra.

You only live once. Get your boobs done!

I would do it tomorrow if i could. I have to use under wired bras for support, that has left extremely dark marks on my skin. If i get a little sweaty i get skin rash around that area and most of all i don’t like how i look. Sooo
if you can afford it please do it or there will be another pit somewhere waiting to filled with your inheritance money and you’ll regret not spending it on your self.
You are doing it to feel better about yourself after all, which will eventually be better for your mental health.
Hope all goes well with whatever you decide..

You are 31 you say, OK if that's what will make you happy now. Just be aware though that the lift will be short lived and as you get a bit older or put on a couple of pounds you will probably think they need doing again... and again.... Gravity, female fat accumulation and age makes this inevitable.

I had mine done as they were small and I hated that I didn’t feel very feminine. I work in a majority male industry so have to wear a uniform that is not flattering. I waited until I was 32 to have them done and I wish I’d done it sooner. I didn’t go massive just a 32D went under the muscle and when I’ve told people they're paid for they’re very surprised as they fit my frame and look natural. I’m so happy and super confident now and actually enjoy wearing lower cut tops as I actually have boobs. Also how much money are you spending on bras it soon adds up.

He's got no right to tell you what to do with your money. If you want to do it, do it.

I had a boob job after many years of breastfeeding - best money I ever spent.

She's still going to buy bras afterwards

Sounds like your wearing the wrong size bra and possibly wrong style too

Agree. You should still wear supportive bras after a lift.

Of course a boob job is a waste of money and therefore seen as dumb. It’s not ‘needed’ in the traditional sense of the word and it’s also an unnecessary risk in terms of the surgery itself, again making it a potentially ‘dumb’ choice.

That’s not to say I wouldn’t do it myself though. I might have a mini tummy tuck as well, to rid myself of the saggy skin after childbirth.

So something can be a waste of money/dumb, but absolutely fine too. I’d do it acknowledging that I was being a bit daft, but I was happy to do it.