OP, I was going to post here recently regarding my daughter but was scared of the judgement.
Posters saying “have hard boundaries, do this, do that”.
It doesn’t work (for me/us).
A poster above said “refuse to do anything, e.g. washing, so she’ll go to school in dirty uniform”
That wouldn’t work. My daughter would just refuse to go to school. She is currently on 68% attendance.
I feel like a shit mum. Friends have asked how I cope. Antidepressants seem to be working for me to an extent.
My daughter is 13. She is vile, hurtful, rude, violent, selfish, abusive. If she was a friend or partner, she’d be long gone. She is a rude, facetious shit at school.
I let her go to friends for sleepovers, because it’s the only respite her sister and I get (I’m a single mum).
She smashed her iPhone (accidentally) so it was replaced on insurance. Two weeks later, she thew the new one down on the floor in a rage, and smashed it completely, because I had put screentime on.
She’s slapped me recently. When she was younger she threatened me with knives.
I get called cunt, bitch, retard, fat cow, etc.
She has tried to jump out of my car while I was driving. Grabbed the steering wheel another time.
Found a shop that sold her vodka and got drunk on it in a park recently.
Awaiting private assessments for “undiagnosed learning needs” (school’s words) that my parents have kindly said they’ll pay for. Still on waiting list for camhs and counselling.
She has been fairly awful since birth but always manageable. Now, it’s another level.
Her 10 year old sister is a dream. Always has been.
My partner is amazing and ignores the tantrums and helps out with things she wants to do. I guess to try and win her over.