Is this dress a bit “much” for a wedding?

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Dress code for the wedding is cocktail/black tie. I think it suits me (size 10/decent boobs). SIL thinks it’s great. MIL asked if I would be comfortable. DP said it’s very “different”.

YABU - it’s not appropriate
YANBU - wear it

Do they give lessons on how to be this spiteful?

Very lucky! Well, my advice would be to sleep in a bra! But it's advice I haven't been able to take myself 😭

The Coast dress is really classy whilst still emphasising cleavage in a far more tasteful way, I think the Coast dress is perfect and in no way dull. The self portrait dress is great if you are in your twenties but again I don't think suitable for a wedding and way too much flesh on show.

Coco Chanel said a woman should be 2 things classy and fabulous and the Coast dress ticks both those boxes in my opinion.

Super gorgeous. Health to wear and I hope you have a lovely time.

I was criticised for wearing a black fascinator with a veil at my late mum's funeral apart from my cousin who said it was lovely. I wore it and it gave me comfort to dress up for a woman who dressed stylishly throughout her long lived life.

The fact u r asking means u know it’s not.

Disagree! Would look like a crap vest with a flat chested woman wearing it!! Defo need the boobs, which OP has, for those dresses

r u new to s & b?

It reminds me of the bird outfit in white chicks sorry.

This seems a bit breasts focused for normal boobs, starting to wonder if some blokes posting.

Really don't think all-black or all-white are ok for a wedding.

Just bad manners. Even if the bride doesn't mind, wearing either will be noticed by other guests. Just looks a bit self-centred and oblivious.

From the pic of the dress I'd say no it's too much but actually you look fabulous in it and definitely not try hard/pic me you look like a very pretty dressed up girl next door vibe. It's 100% fine for a black tie wedding. And as for age behave of course that's fine.

I'd take a guess it will look more stylish than what many other guests will wear. Like the length too.

I think you should have gone to Specsavers.

This isn't in s&b, OP has posted it in aibu, asking are they being unreasonable to wear it to a wedding

I linked to three Self Portrait dresses in my post, not just one. The second two are a similar tiered style to op’s original dress, but less revealing around the boobs.

I'm 52 and I wouldn't wear that - it's the kind of thing my Mum in her 80s would wear to a wedding. And it's absolutely not black tie/cocktail attire.

I’d vote it’s too much

Wear it, you look fab. The B&G are in fashion, so people will be going for it. You loved it enough to buy it, don't 2nd guess. Wear it. If you'll wear something else, get to the wedding and will have wished you did.

If you're sporting DDs then yes unsuitable. If you're flat and a B/ C cup you'll be fine with boob tape.

Sorry but in my opinion it is definitely well over the top for a wedding. Too revealing and too showy.

I think it looks fab on you! You can definitely pull it off with that figure. Such nasty comments here, no need for them.

It's not so much that there's anything wrong with the dress itself; there's no reason why it wouldn't be fine for a dinner dance or something like that.

It's for a register office wedding in London in the autumn and other dresses would probably be more suitable (in my view).

Initially thought the black tulle dress was 'a bit much' but reading your description of the wedding, I understand the choice completely. The Coast dress has a similar vibe but might feel a bit more comfortable for you if you were having doubts. The black one looked super on you so Coast one should suit you too.

Thanks everyone!

I wouldn’t have posted if I didn’t have doubts and I think that enough people think it’s totally wrong that there’s a chance I could offend the mother of the bride! I will save the exciting black dress for a night out / my holiday.

I think I still have PTSD from a time in my late twenties where I spent a fortune on a dark green, silk cocktail dress (knee length) for an evening, London hotel wedding and a random guest asked me if I was “trying to be a bridesmaid or something”. Everyone said he was being odd and it was a perfectly nice dress for a wedding guest but it really ruined my evening as I felt so embarrassed.

Looks fine to me. Seems to fit the theme well. Wear it 🙂