Is this dress a bit “much” for a wedding?

[Northerngirl345]

Dress code for the wedding is cocktail/black tie. I think it suits me (size 10/decent boobs). SIL thinks it’s great. MIL asked if I would be comfortable. DP said it’s very “different”.

YABU - it’s not appropriate
YANBU - wear it

Bit much,

the rule about weddings is not to attract too much attention to yourself, hence the no-white/ivory etc. colour

It makes a difference if the bride is very close to you - then ask
or if you barely know her, if you are a +1 or something, in which case it's really is a no.

Cocktail normally means knee-length dress.
It would be fab for black tie/evening wear but you may feel slightly overdressed.

However general rule is better over dressed than under dressed and black tie does lean toward evening wear.

It depends what sort of guestlist....if you know others that are going are they the sort of people to go all out?

It's lovely and absolutely appropriate for a black tie / cocktail event.

If you are willowy then yes. If you have boobs then no

It's definitely too much. Perhaps suitable for an American wedding, but not for a wedding here.

I don’t like it, but I wouldn’t have had a problem at all if somebody had worn it to my wedding. On a model on a website it stands out more than it will on you in a crowd.

I could think of weddings were it would and wouldn't be appropriate. It depends on who you are re the bride and what that circle usually wear. I'd find out what the Maid of honour, or any adult bridesmaids are in, it might be similar.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say to me it looks like what you'd wear to a wedding if you were the volatile and vampish ex-fiancee of the groom in a Brazilian telenovella.

Or a flamenco themed toilet roll cover.

I think it's hideous sorry @Northerngirl345

Also @Northerngirl345 When someone calls something 'different' (as your DH did,) it is NEVER a compliment - EVER.

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It would be a no for me because I am in the (minority) camp that black is not an appropriate colour for a wedding, the tulle feels too bridal-y and I don’t like plunging necklines at the best of times but particularly not for a wedding.

It's so stunning people might look at you and not the bride.

I think the opposite - it looks okayish (not my taste but not hideous) on a tall flat chested model. On a shorter woman with bigger boobs, it would be very very revealing, it's basically open right to your navel if you're short.

at least that's what the wearer would think

Ok, here’s me in it. My decent boobs, I don’t mean big ones. I mean that I’m in my 40s and they stay don’t need a bra.

It's too much for a wedding. Weddings are about the bride - not about the guests and this is definitely a 'look at me' dress'.

It will look like you are trying to upstage the bride, which is really bad manners. You can't draw major amounts of attention to yourself on someone else's wedding day.

In what kind of place is the wedding being held, at what time of day and in which month of the year?

Do you have any other dresses in mind?

Not for a wedding, imo. That extreme cleavage line shrieks look at ME not the bride! And I don't like black for a wedding.

But it's a great dress at a great price for other parties and occasions.

You look gorgeous in it! People are going to be eyeing you up for sure though.

Totes perfect if you’re planning to go all main character energy and shout during the bit when the vicar asks if anyone knows any just cause or impediment 👌

Is it comfortable to sit on those layers of material? If it's in any way scratchy I think sitting down in it for a meal would be annoying.

But it's not upstaging of the bride or inappropriate in any way and you look good in it.

Keep the dress for Christmas?

Fine - if you're going to the wedding of one of the Kardashians, otherwise not.

It isn't a cocktail dress anyway, it is an evening dress.

Sorry, but you are too booby for that dress and it's too low cut. I really wouldn't. Unless you can ask the bride and she's OK with it. Saying that, I still wouldn't.

Lovely dress but personally I think maybe better if it wasn't black. There's similar but less 'dramatic' cocktail dresses about for a wedding. Maybe more one for the Christmas party.