Is this dress a bit “much” for a wedding?

[Northerngirl345]

Dress code for the wedding is cocktail/black tie. I think it suits me (size 10/decent boobs). SIL thinks it’s great. MIL asked if I would be comfortable. DP said it’s very “different”.

YABU - it’s not appropriate
YANBU - wear it

I thought it looked lovely on you but if you're unsure, the coast one is gorgeous too and still has a bit of interest to it.
Agree about the red dress, looks very aging!

No it's lovely, as long as you feel comfortable in it to for it.
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Op I think the black one is gorgeous and looks beautiful on you however the Debenhams one is also gorgeous and I think it may be more comfortable for you. Wear whichever feels most comfortable 😊

I think the cocktail thing sends an off kilter message. Cocktail party yes. Red carpet yes. Wedding, although I love the dress - no.
Also you say you have decent boobs (lucky you!) the model appears to be very small chested, I know you're a size 10, but would you be spilling out in areas that the model isn't?

Oops, I didn't rtft! I apologise, you've moved on. I'll play catch up.

This one is lovely!

Suits the brief and very elegant without being too out there. Have a lovely time!

I've caught up now 🤣

I wouldn't get my boobs out at a wedding whatever the theme. Would look great at another type of party where having all eyes on you is ok!

I like it but it’s too revealing for a wedding

Contrary to what some posters have said (not read full thread), I actually think that kind of deep but narrow V really does suit a flat chest. I think I’d wear it, and I’m pretty self conscious about the fact I have no boobs.

OP I think it’s a gorgeous dress and to my mind is appropriate for a black tie do including a wedding. I think I’d only draw the line if my chest size meant that you could actually see boob on display ie they were massive.

If you look and feel good in it, go for it, I think it’s lovely!

Oh my god, I’m trending.

This is so exciting.

It’s great - get it 😊

Unless full of other self absorbed celebrities, the style is attention seeking for a wedding and poor etiquette; choose something else for the occasion.

And congratulations on ‘trending’!

He was an idiot who was trying to chat you up in a very clumsy way, it seems.

I don't think you can have a black tie dress code and not expect guests to wear eye catching dresses?

The only thing I'd be unsure of is the black, but I guess ar a black tie wedding, that's OK too.

Love it. Perfect for black tie wedding.

@Northerngirl345 I know that ptsd wearing the wrong outfit feeling, and you've just given me a flashback to my early 20s. I was on a work training event taking place over 3 days in a university, culminating in a gala dinner. I wasn't really sure what a gala dinner was (still not really) but I thought it might involve getting on your glad rags. I wore a green satin tea dress with a tie back and heels. When I got down to the hall, everyone else had on a version of black trousers and sparkly top. I died a little bit inside but carried on with the evening. I was younger than everyone else there too and not as qualified so I think that added to the fish out of water feeling. 20 years on, I've got a different perspective - I wish I has a picture of myself from that evening because I'm sure I looked lovely and if I could tell my young self that I would.

I think it’s perfect for a black tie wedding especially in those circumstances . I’m not sure what other people think you should wear ?

It’s lovely. I had the same dress code at my wedding and it’s perfect

She’s already said black is acceptable and other significant huesta are wearing black

Call me old fashioned, but I have always thought the rule “no tits out at a wedding” was one to live by.

I’d go for a colour other than black (not white either!).
Black is a bit too funereal for a wedding.

Oh the black is absolutely gorgeous on you, it suits your figure so well .

If bride and groom are in fashion they will have the best gear on themselves so no one will outshine them.

I've been to tons of black tie weddings and black is definitely a popular colour and that style is very cocktail.

This is why I love Irish weddings, we dress up to the nines and go all out, it doesn't matter what time of the day it is, for morning weddings we do the same, we wear all colours (except block white) we get hair and makeup done and make the most of and enjoy the whole day. The more glam the better.

It sounds like a lovely wedding, you don't want to be turning up in a blazer or one of those flowery dresses that are always recommended on here.