Is this dress a bit “much” for a wedding?

[Northerngirl345]

Dress code for the wedding is cocktail/black tie. I think it suits me (size 10/decent boobs). SIL thinks it’s great. MIL asked if I would be comfortable. DP said it’s very “different”.

YABU - it’s not appropriate
YANBU - wear it

I think it’s too boobs personally but if you feel comfortable in it, go for it.

Your final sentence was my first thought 🤦‍♀️I don't see why posters get accused of jealousy if they genuinely don't like a particular outfit & the OP has asked for honest opinions.

Think it depends how 'decent' your boobs are unfortunately..

If you are asking the question, then I think you have your answer. At a wedding you want to be comfortable as well as looking good, not making potentially risky fashion choices. You can always wear this dress at an occasion where you are the centre of attention - it would be perfect for a birthday or anniversary party.

For a fashion crowd in London, I'd go for a label that they will recognise, but nothing too obvious. Something classy and aspirational with a nod to current trends. Victoria Starmer has chosen very well for recent events. She looks fashionable and elegant, but comfortable.

Also, if two other family members are wearing black, I think you should pick a different colour.

Didn’t take long for someone to suggest a pashmina… Surely no one actually wears those or cares that they might be slightly chilly walking into a venue?!

Hm tough one!

I have to agree with PP saying it would suit a willowy figure - Kendall Jenner has worn a lot of beautiful tiered dresses, but they really suit her because of how slender her frame is….otherwise I think it looks too voluminous around the hips/love handles area (NOT saying you have love handles btw, just trying to explain which area!).

I can also see the Wednesday Addams vibes PP spoke of.

No I wouldn’t….unless I was young, slim and drop dead gorgeous and loved attention…..I’m only 1 of those things ….so I wouldn’t

O don’t like it on you as o think teh skirt isn’t quite wide or slim enough. It’s neither one thing nor the other.

it is giving loo roll dolly cover too!

I don't like black for a wedding except on men.

First of all @Northerngirl345 you look amazing in that dress. Absolutely amazing. For a black tie wedding in London, with fashion people, no its not too much. However, now the doubt has crept in you won't shake it so I would get something else.

@Northerngirl345

Would you like some suggestions for something which is more likely to fit the bill, OP?

It’s too low to not draw attention to yourself But it’s a beautiful dress

Net curtains come to mind, really don't like it in any shape or form but each to their own.
If you like it OP then that's all that matters.

LOVE!!

if I was having a black tie cocktail kinda wedding I want people to dress like this, you’ll look stunning

You have a lovely figure op. But I also think you’d need to be more willowy to pull it off for a black tie wedding. I also think the coast one posted would be the most cleavage I would show.

Looks great

Dress is lovely but in all honesty, it's just too much "tits in face" for a wedding

I’m with DP - it’s very different.
Its not to my taste but I think it would be ok for a cocktail/black tie dress code

I would get some sort of jet / diamanté brooch, fancy safety pin or clip to pull in the neckline so it's not so décolleté for the wedding. After, see how the land lies.

Agree with majority view - you look fab but it’s too much for a wedding. I also wouldn’t wear completely black to a wedding. Black tie does not require black dresses. You have a terrific figure and could look fab in something colourful, I’m sure.

So @Northerngirl345 - do posters have your permission to start suggesting alternatives? I’ve seen terrific outfit suggestions on these threads! Would love to see what some posters might suggest for you!

Ditto, "Well, if YOU like it....."

Oh with that context I would absolutely wear the dress!!

You look gorgeous in it and it doesn't sound like it would be out of place.

I’d say no and I think the John Lewis name for it suggests not a wedding vibe. True decadence.

It's a fabulous dress, and you look awesome!
I think the dress code contradicts itself though, a black tie event/wedding then yes, full length frocks like this are perfect with men in DJs etc, but a 'cocktail' dress code would normally mean men in normal suits and women in knee length or even a bit shorter dresses.
Maybe check with the bride and or other guests.

Sorry, I missed one of your updates OP! I hope you get to wear the dress to something else soon 🙂