Is this dress a bit “much” for a wedding?

[Northerngirl345]

Dress code for the wedding is cocktail/black tie. I think it suits me (size 10/decent boobs). SIL thinks it’s great. MIL asked if I would be comfortable. DP said it’s very “different”.

YABU - it’s not appropriate
YANBU - wear it

Love it.

Oh fgs! Yes once you’re over thirty you must wear beige and be covered from neck to ankle. 🙄 How about we just drop these petty, ageist limitations and embrace all body types? It’s like saying women of a certain age shouldn’t have long hair. Who dictates these things!

I love it, OP. You look great. And sorry but since when do we now have to worry about drawing attention at a wedding? Nobody will upstage the bride in reality unless they wear white or cream. There’s nothing extreme about your dress and I’d never think you were trying to steal the show if you wore this to my wedding. I find it so odd that people are this insecure.

It's gorgeous, how would you accessorise it? I couldn't carry it off these days but if I could I would! Guess it also depends on what type of wedding it is too

I think it depends on the bride and her opinion! I love it and wouldn't mind a guest wearing it but some brides may feel uncomfortable with that.

Where is the wedding taking place? It's too low cut for a church and to black for weddings in general.

NOT TRUE. You can carry it off at any age. What a great theme and who cares if you show tit?

Exactly 🤣

Sums it up perfectly.

I've been to the weddings you describe and it looks great on you. Go for it.

For an evening wedding it's fine.
For a daytime wedding it is too eveningy imo with the accentuated boobage, although it is fabulous.

The dress is STUNNING on you ! However you seem to have seeds of doubt so save it for something else fabulous and have fun finding something else for the wedding !

I think it looks great imo

Why would you want to draw so much attention to yourself on someone else's day?

NOT TRUE. You can carry it off at any age. What a great theme and who cares if you show tit?

Erm, wouldn't you care if your tits fell out or you were showing areola in the wedding photos?
Optimistic to say you can carry it off at any age. IMO this style of dress might be carried off by a willowy woman in her teens/early 20s and considered 'daring' 'sexy' 'unique' etc. The flouncy ruffles, neckline that plunges to navel, are inappropriate for a wedding but a young woman might get away with it.
On somone in her 30s I think it would look odd, inappropriate and attention-seeking, especially if the wedding is in a church. You can look smart, glamorous and unusual without resorting to a dress like this.

OMG I LOVE it - wear it, its gorgeous

You look fabulous in this dress. You know you do, and it's so lovely being at an event seeing everyone in their own style, especially cocktail theme. My only advice is, NEVER ask for advice on clothes. I never do. If you like it, go for it.

As MIL and SIL are also wearing black, and you’ve posted their views, that puts a different perspective on things.

Perhaps wearing black will indicate a close relationship to the bride or groom?

I agree with you - keep the dress but wear something else for the wedding.

Yeah you can’t front up at someone’s wedding in that. 😂

I don't understand why so many people are saying it's not appropriate. For the type of wedding you've described it's spot on and you look great in it.

Classless and attention seeking.

It's beautiful- sexy and stylish. I'd wear the crap out of that!

You go girl!

It is perfect.

Maybe get a dressmaker to add a modesty panel if you are concerned about the cleavage.

it looks like what you'd wear to a wedding if you were the volatile and vampish ex-fiancee of the groom in a Brazilian telenovella.

Perfectly expressed by @FKAT !

Yes please!

Exactly