Is this dress a bit “much” for a wedding?

[Northerngirl345]

Dress code for the wedding is cocktail/black tie. I think it suits me (size 10/decent boobs). SIL thinks it’s great. MIL asked if I would be comfortable. DP said it’s very “different”.

YABU - it’s not appropriate
YANBU - wear it

Too much. That much boob and flounce could be seen as competing with the bride.

Black tie doesn't mean black dress!

I'd keep it for another occasion, and not wear it to a wedding. The plunging neckline and side boob, the colour, the tulle and the length are all a no from me.

It looks lovely on you. I'm not sure how many posters have actually been to a black tie wedding, but its exactly the kind iofthing guests will be wearing.

You look lovely in it but not appropriate for a wedding too much going on.

Would look great for a different black tie event but too revealing and attention-grabbing for wedding, looks like you're trying to outshine bride. Especially the ruffles. I think that sort of neckline is best on under-30s who have small boobs and tit tape.

The dress looks very nice on you and it would be perfect for a fancy event. A wedding? No, sorry. Too much boob.

You have a lovely figure but I don't think the dress style suits you.
The skirt of the dress is a bit much for a typical black-tie wedding.

You look lovely. I am not a bridezilla though. I love people looking gorgeous and feeling happy about how they look. I would be delighted as a bride for my guests to make an effort and feel fabulous. I think I am in a minority though. I am no oil painting but still love to look at beautiful people, esp my friends and family!

It’s more black tie than cocktail. If you decide to go for it, wear a jacket so that you can cover up for the more formal parts. I would also see if you could add something around the waistline to make it less plunging.

More importantly, can you dance in it without swinging a boob out on a walkabout?!

I have been to plenty of black tie weddings and events, never seen anyone wear a dress open down to their navel...

Something more like this would be what I would expect to see

https://www.coastfashion.com/product/coast-plunge-neck-stretch-mesh-bridesmaids-dress_bcc07222

But I am a bit confused by the dress code in that black tie and cocktail are different to me - I think of black tie dresses as floor length and cocktail as more knee length

Thanks everyone. I came here for honesty and that what I got! I’ll keep the dress for another special occasion as I do love it. I don’t agree with posters saying it’s only ok if you’re in your twenties! Goodness me….should we all start wearing trouser suits/cardigans?

Bit of background. Bride & Groom both work in fashion. Wedding is in central London. MIL & SIL are both wearing black. Everyone is making a big effort - hair & make up done professionally etc.

But I do think it’s too “look at me”. That’s what I thought when I tried it on (ordered online).

It's understandably a matter of taste. I personally think it's a dress you'd stare at to try & find what's to like about it 🤦‍♀️

I have that dress in burgundy. I wore it to a ball and got lots of compliments from strangers. I’m in my forties and not willowy. It’s actually a pretty flattering dress; I did put a stitch in the keyhole bit though as I felt that was a bit much. Afterwards teen dd borrowed it for a party.

I think it’s fine for a black tie wedding, although I personally wouldn’t wear black (lots will though).

Fashion wedding in London? Wear it!

Depends on the crowd, I’ve been to black tie weddings where it would fit and where it wouldn’t.

Perfect for NYE but not for a wedding.

For a black tie wedding, with low key jewellery/accessories/shoes/make up I think perfect

@Northerngirl345

Is the whole event within a large hotel, OP? I'm assuming that no part of the wedding will be in a church. Happy to be corrected, though.

I think it’s gorgeous, go full glam why not.

I think it still very much depends on your relation to the bride.

I hated it in the picture but on you it actually looks really good!

I would perhaps ask the bride or people attending the wedding.

If they are into fashion then the outfits are going to be slightly different than the average wedding.

I don’t know enough about fashion to say whether it’s suitable but I think it looks great on you.

It's a stunning dress and you look amazing in it.

However, it's too much. It's too low cut for a wedding and too long for a cocktail dress.

It is gorgeous, though.

I love it. A guest wore this dress in pink to my wedding and I have since borrowed it for another wedding! Although we are in Ireland so don’t know if that skews it a bit, most people tend to go all out, especially for black tie!!

I would say it is a definite no on all fronts design, colour, cleavage, frou frou, for me it isn't very classy and as others have already said it is very attention seeking which I feel is inappropriate for a wedding. I would go for something a little more discreet and with a little more coverage, just my view.