Just sent this to my 16 & 17 year old

[Nur122]

Guess this isn’t unreasonable
Firstly I love you both lots.
I want to be able to explain that I am disappointed in you both for your lack of respect for how you don’t do the few things in the house like you are meant to like keep your rooms tidy, they are getting worse and more disgusting with old food bowls etc being left in them rather than better. Also you keep leaving stuff lying about the house. I have always been happy doing things for you because I love you and wanted you to have a happy, nice childhood but you are both a lot older now and basically no different from adults so should be able to be a bit more responsible for yourselves without nagging. I’m not expecting you to do the vacuuming, fridge cleaning, bathrooms etc but if you notice a dog poo in the way, or some fly poos somewhere yucky etc there is no reason why you shouldn’t clean them up for example. If you need more storage in your rooms I can help sort it out.
Please do these things out of need and respect.
lots of love mum

Exactly@Lucy25 very well put.
I can't help hoping all those people mocking and insulting OP re fly poo are busy cleaning up their mucky window frames and sills, or asking their teenage dcs to do so, plenty of advice online how to do that.
I think OP sounds like a really lovely mum, and very patient with some very rude rude posters

@Nur122

Completely get where you're coming from but I'd have sat them down, face to face & had that conversation - blunt & brief - you either start pulling your weight or I stop doing things for you/remove privileges. End of.

I'd also expect more from them - why shouldn't they help with the hoovering etc? They live in the home, too.

I'd pick my battles with their bedrooms, though - no crusty cups, bowls etc but if they want to live in a messy pit, that's up to them - it's their space.

Our 17yr old has various chores/things that are expected of him, simply because he's old enough to do them & lives in the house like the rest of us & then additional chores which he has the option of doing for a small payment, ie, mowing the lawn, etc.

Shame they won't do things off their own initiative. Nice you sandwiched your wants with expression of love at the beginning and end. It is not unreasonable, I'm sorry you've had to ask.