Just sent this to my 16 & 17 year old

[Nur122]

Guess this isn’t unreasonable
Firstly I love you both lots.
I want to be able to explain that I am disappointed in you both for your lack of respect for how you don’t do the few things in the house like you are meant to like keep your rooms tidy, they are getting worse and more disgusting with old food bowls etc being left in them rather than better. Also you keep leaving stuff lying about the house. I have always been happy doing things for you because I love you and wanted you to have a happy, nice childhood but you are both a lot older now and basically no different from adults so should be able to be a bit more responsible for yourselves without nagging. I’m not expecting you to do the vacuuming, fridge cleaning, bathrooms etc but if you notice a dog poo in the way, or some fly poos somewhere yucky etc there is no reason why you shouldn’t clean them up for example. If you need more storage in your rooms I can help sort it out.
Please do these things out of need and respect.
lots of love mum

You lost me at fly poo…

My kids have to create time in my schedule if they want me to do something for them, by taking something off my plate. This has always been the case.

What useful life skills do you kids have? If you do everything for them you are making them someone else's problem. Please don't. Let them be responsible for buying for and cooking a meal each a week. Make the meal plan and prep all meals. Get them to fill out all their own bloody forms. Etc etc.
They can do their own washing or suffer the consequences. Step back. Show them once and live your life away from being their maid.

Very well said to them, give them a day to take it in, then chat

Oh dear, a lot of people with fly poo in their houses

😂

I expect my 9 and 12 year old to help out around the house. They wash up, hoover and keep bedrooms tidyish. No reason you shouldn't expect a little more from 16&17 year olds. I do think it maybe a bit late though, hence I started with chores for mine quite young.

‘Dog poo in the way’?

That note is going to be on TikTiok with a hilarious monotone voiceover

Teehee 😂

Honestly, I doubt that they will even bother to read to the end.
Talk to them. Get them cooking once a week if they don’t already, don’t let them take plates, bowls etc into their rooms. It wouldn’t kill them to do their own laundry. If it’s not in the wash basket don’t clean it. Sometimes they have to learn the hard way. Tell them your expectations and stick to it. If they don’t cook when expected get them in the kitchen to throw something together. If they don’t put clothes in the laundry, don’t pick them up from their rooms to wash them, leave them. They’re old enough to have these life skills.

This place is unreal.

There is nothing wrong with the note 🙄

Fly poo?

Sorry, I know it's not the important issue here, but I'm confused and now totally fixated on the fly poo thing? Ive never even seen fly poo? At least I don't think I have?

See link regarding fly excrement. Perhaps you'll need to source some little bags after all

www.nbcenvironment.co.uk/about-us/articles/how-to-get-rid-of-flies/#:~:text=The%20presence%20of%20%E2%80%9Cfly%20spots,faeces%20on%20fly%20alighting%20surfaces.

My mind is blown by the fly poo. I’ve never seen it, and I’m 50 years old. Do you all have corpses or rotten meat left about your homes, that attract swarms of flies which leave piles of poo all over the place? How big can a fly turd be?

Fly poos look like black dots, like full stops in a sentence, if you use a bigger font then usual. There may be other types but this is for a house fly or a meat fly. You dont need to have a filthy home to have flies.

I think the presence of corpses would reduce the fly poo, as the maggots would eat the poo.
So, you've been rumbled! No fly poo = corpse on the window sill.

Oh I've seen fly 💩

Fly poo.
On my pretty new uPVC window frame. No rotting meat nearby, just the outside.

No perfect eyesight. Clean house.

HTH.

I know right. Must need to clean their houses better.

When you're cleaning a window with a squeegee and there's a bit of a streak, and when you look more closely there's a tiny raised dot that won't shift, maybe orangey/brown in colour and about 1mm across, and you push it with your thumbnail and it comes loose, that's fly poo.

I admit I don't clear every single window frame or sill every day.
I imagine there must be some on the skirting boards and on top of the door frames.
I can also say that not a single person who has entered my home has ever noticed and that me and my family have not suffered any detriments effects by living among insects.

Of all the things I might have liked my kids to do I think cleaning fly poo off a window frame would be the very last thing I'd think of!
My partner at work used to tell me about his son and the fights he and his wife would have about the state of his room - arguments and bad feeling almost every day. My two kids were similar ages and I'd say, I don't have this problem, we live in a calm house, we never argue about it, they keep the door closed and I never go in. Try it OP! If they're messy at that age you aren't going to fix it!

Your kids are bone idle lazy
Do better

I need a picture of fly poo!

OP I suspect it's not fly poo but perhaps your parents called it that when you were tiny?
Regards your message to teenagers, sentiment is ok but your message is too long, unfocused and won't be effective.

Leave it a month then try again.
Post it here first so we can tidy it up for you.