Just sent this to my 16 & 17 year old

[Nur122]

Guess this isn’t unreasonable
Firstly I love you both lots.
I want to be able to explain that I am disappointed in you both for your lack of respect for how you don’t do the few things in the house like you are meant to like keep your rooms tidy, they are getting worse and more disgusting with old food bowls etc being left in them rather than better. Also you keep leaving stuff lying about the house. I have always been happy doing things for you because I love you and wanted you to have a happy, nice childhood but you are both a lot older now and basically no different from adults so should be able to be a bit more responsible for yourselves without nagging. I’m not expecting you to do the vacuuming, fridge cleaning, bathrooms etc but if you notice a dog poo in the way, or some fly poos somewhere yucky etc there is no reason why you shouldn’t clean them up for example. If you need more storage in your rooms I can help sort it out.
Please do these things out of need and respect.
lots of love mum

Yeah I don’t think that will elicit the response you’re after.

What jobs have been assigned to them OP?

Do you have a weekly cleaning rota and what are the consequences for them if they fail to do their assigned jobs?

They are likely to just ignore that note, honestly.

could you have had a conversation with them?

I wouldn't expect them to clean up dog shit (why is there random dog shit? Is nobody cleaning it up immediately it exits the dog?).

Their rooms...yes, it's annoying, but it's their living space so I would largely drop the rope on that one. I would insist that communal items like crockery and cutlery were brought down and washed up.

If you wanted them to participate in the running of the house, you've missed the boat, really...they aren't going to suddenly transmogrify into capable and conscientious chore-doers because you wrote them a pissy note.

I don't think I have ever seen fly poo. Should I be looking out for it

Their rooms are their rooms if they want to live like that it's up to them just shut the door like I do. Telling them doesn't make any difference neither does nagging. Mine bring loads of glasses and cups down when we are running out and don't get me started on forks going missing I have 26 knives and 5 forks because I keep buying sets.

WTF is fly poo, and why is there random dog shit in your home?

I don't think that is very helpful tbh. I think you'd do better to have a conversation.

I think sitting down in person is always better than text. You’re in charge, come up with a rota for cleaning.

Why is there dog/animal poo in the house though?!

@Iloveeverycat

We have the same cutlery drawer. Mine also has an abundance of dessert spoons but sadly lacking in teaspoons

I don't think this will work out the way you hope it will.

It's very shit specific.

Another one bemused by the dog poo and fly poo all over your house.

And wondering why you emailed/texted people that you live with.

Oh is it that poster who trolls about poo?

You're not doing anything wrong trying to get them to be respectable and clean. I dont understand people letting them keep bowls and shit in their room for weeks, that's just minging and not necessary. They are capable of keeping their space clean and respectable.

Honestly you are fighting a losing battle.
I just shut the door on it all.
Bit concerned about the dog crap though in the house? I think that is down to you. Are you not walking it enough?

Are they “basically no different from adults” when it comes to staying out late, drinking alcohol, etc etc? Because I think you’re on dodgy ground with that phrase!

The dog poo is in the garden not the house and I wrote a message so that I had a proper chance to say what I wanted. I’m surprised none have you have ever come across fly poo on window frames etc

You’re not expecting them to do vacuuming and bathroom cleaning?

No wonder they’re bone idle. My 11 year old has a list of chores to do at the weekend which include cleaning the bathroom, tidying his room (including hoovering it) and sweeping the kitchen floor

Ok there may be a lot of complaining and sometimes I help him with the bathroom. But I’m not his butler and if he wants to do nice family things, he shares in the less nice too

Why are they meant to like cleaning up poo? I don’t understand that sentence, nobody likes it surely?!

Yes.
You can really tiny little bags to put it.
Ask at any pet shop.

If you think your kids are "basically no different from adults" then why don't you speak to them like adults?

I’m not expecting you to do the vacuuming, fridge cleaning, bathrooms etc

Why are you not expecting them to do basic household tasks? They are 16 and 17.
Have they never had to do jobs in the house?

😂😂

@Nur122 if you're talking about little black dots that's damp. Pretty sure you can't see fly poo😂