Schoolgirls spiked my daughter’s drink with laxatives.

[Halfordscarpark]

This is more of a WWYD I guess.

My daughter has been bullied recently at school, some physical, some verbal and this week the bullies poured laxatives into her water bottle at lunchtime and I had to leave work to collect her.

I’ve not heard anything more from the school or the parents and the children are still in school.

I’m interested to hear what you think and what you would do in this situation as this is not acceptable.

As an ex police officer, I say call the police. Schools are given rein to deal with things that happen at school but this falls into a much more serious bracket than they should be dealing with.
Your poor DD! What a horrible thing for them to do.

Bullies tend to select smaller or quieter 'victims' - There is always a 'ringleader' and the weedy little sidekicks.

Aim for the ringleader, as you did, and it often improves.

Bullies are cowards and weak - My son was bullied at 13 {small for age as late summer birthday} - only when he hit back hard to the main bully did it stop.

I too tried the school...but a decisive punch stopped it.

Son did get suspended for a day, {as did the bully} but it was well worth it.

There was a reunion at the school, and son and the bully were there... the bully was TINY. He actually apologised and said ''I don't know why we bullied you''

Son towered over him in adult life.

Bullies really make me mad. 😡

Police. Those fucking scrotes need stringing up

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Wow! Is this some new bullying trend! Who would even think this up! They were obviously hoping she’d soil herself and embarrass herself to the whole school! That is on another level.

Absolutely disgusting that the school haven’t kept in touch with you and treated this as the serious incident it is.

Ad others have said you MUST report this to the police. They may have recorded it in their phones. The school have said they had packets of laxatives on them? So that’s evidence. I would be onto the police tomorrow. No need to tell the school.

No way would my DC be going back to that school. They should should been all over this. DD is going into Yr 9 in September? Just about doable for a move. I’d be ringing around all the local schools on Monday to try to find her a place for September. Might be hard as a lot of schools are at capacity but there’s not a chance in hell I’d keep her in a school with those girls knowing what they’d done to her and likely only to get a slap in the wrist for. Vile creatures.

I would absolutely call the police

Bullies rely on people not hitting back and not wanting to cause a scene.

The iconic scene in Kes {film} This was how bullying was sorted way back in schools.

That's pure evil, I hope your dd is okay

Call the police. If they get away with this, who knows what they'll try to do next time.

DS had the same with a kid the same size as him but with similar weedy little sidekicks. One day he lost it after kid taking this piss out of him again and got the kid in a headlock and on the floor, sat on him. No injuries thankfully. DS said he purposely didn’t hit him just wanted to take him down! 3 teachers had to pull him off. They were gobsmacked as DS was well known as an extremely high achiever, won awards. extremely polite, mature, exemplary behaviour and I was often told the teachers wished all the kids were like him (genuinely).

He was immediately suspended for 3 days and when I went in to collect him, there were kids coming of classes all talking about it. A couple of boys who knew I was his mum approached me in reception and said they couldn’t believe it, the whole school was taking about it.

I took him straight for a McDonalds for a treat!

Kid and his sidekicks has never said so much as a word to him since.

OP’s DD’s situation is very different though. I should imagine she was shocked at to what the hell they were doing and a group of them.

Police every single time. In fact I would have called them when I got home and I am actually quite surprised the school haven't.

@Halfordscarpark OP you absolutely MUST inform the police ASAP.

Fuck not causing a scene!!

Your daughter has been assaulted and essentially drugged!

Hit the fucking roof with everybody NOW.

Call the police and lay it on them. Then call the school back and inform them what you have done. Watch them move asap.

Honestly I'd be swinging for the parents I genuinely don't think I could help myself. Sometimes it's the only way to get bullies and their parents to shut the f up once and for all.

Sometimes it's all bullies understand.

Bullies are universally weak. {Weak characters}

I bet you were pleased when your son retaliated.

There have been posts in the past about bullying in schools, and often the 'target' when he or she retaliates, gets no more aggro.

I had a 'bully' at school repeatedly kick my chair in Maths {double maths} - I repeatedly asked him to stop, but he carried on.

I had my geometry set and opened up the compass , leaned round and down and jabbed his kicking foot front at the front of the ankle.

Oh the bully roared. ''Sir !! SiR!!! she Stabbed me sir!!!!''

The weary Maths tutor looked up and said ''Shut up, {Boy's Surname}

He never kicked my chair again .

If you want this dealt with you are going to have to cause a scene and quickly as the term is nearly over.
Arrange to go to the school on Monday - ask what action they are taking and advise the school that you will be contacting the police (if you haven’t done already).

I trained as a teacher and have long since left.

Many schools simply don't take bullying seriously, despite copious policy statements. Sometimes they blame the bullied child. It is based on a rather negative attitude that bullying cannot be stopped and it has been the Zeitgeist with senior management in schools for some time.

So I would contact the police and make it clear what has happened.

I would probably consider another school or home tuition with paid tutors. No-one learns if they are unhappy. It sounds like your school has a poor attitude.

Wishing you well.

So sorry this has happened to your DD OP, I feel so sad for her. Echoing what many others have said - you need to go to the police this weekend. You say you don’t want to cause a scene but this is a situation where you have to do exactly that. It’s really serious. They could have given her something that killed her. You need to stand up for your DD right now.

I think your poor daughter might appreciate you causing a scene if it means her bullies get what’s coming to them.

That is horrible 😱. What wicked children!. That's horrific!. Did you send your daughter in to school after that. How did they force her to drink it.

We need a few more details OP.

First of all, I don't know of any laxative that a) would have a pretty immediate effect and b) would not be visible/obvious if it had been put in water. Anything like syrup of figs or Movical would either colour the water or flavour it, or both.

So did your DD taste or notice a difference, but drink lots of the water anyway? How/why did that happen? How did she come aware that there was a laxative in her water and how did she become aware that it was put their by these children?

As for the effect, most take until the following morning to have much effect and even then you'd probably have had to ingest the whole dose, not just a few sips of a diluted solution, so how come you had to pick her up from school because of this? Was it the following day and she had cramps and a constant need to be on the loo?

Or did you pick her up the same day because she was upset about the apparent spiking? Were the teachers made aware of this allegation by her at the time?

Honestly I don't understand OP. Why is she just waiting for the school to get back to her. This is extremely serious!. Sounds like her daughter is still going to school 😱!

This needs reporting to the police. It's very dangerous. Your poor daughter

Speak to the police. The school should have called them anyway. Their reaction suggests they’re trying to downplay things. It’s a criminal offence to do what they did. Having the police speak to them will hopefully get across the seriousness of what they did and keep them away from your DD in future. I’d also expect them to be suspended from school for a period.

• ”it is a crime to maliciously administer, cause to administer or cause to be taken by any other person any poison or destructive or noxious thing, such as to endanger their life, cause them grievous bodily harm, or intentionally injure, aggrieve, or annoy them”

Please speak to the police. School have had adequate time to deal with this. Your daughter needs to see the perpetrators get some consequences for their actions.

im so sorry your daughter has been going through this. Is she ok mentally as well as physically? What hace the school been doing to support your daughter? With bullying you need to make it harder for the school not to deal with you than to deal with you.

Joining the chorus - you need to report this to the police so the school do take action. You dont have to "make a scene" you just explain to the police what happened and that the children were found with laxatives in their possession. I can imagine they will deny it and say your daughter is bulimic but it should ensure the behaviour is not repeated.

Then you need to inform the school. Ask for a copy of their bullying policy and ask for a meeting to discuss. Record the meeting and if not happy go the governors.

Laxatives can be so dangerous. Yes, people think they are funny (or the consequences are funny), yet have no idea of the harm an overdose can do. If your electrolytes are sent out of kilter by excessive diarrhoea, you can die.
Absolutely pursue this with school and parents of the bullies. I'd be threatening them with police