Schoolgirls spiked my daughter’s drink with laxatives.

[Halfordscarpark]

This is more of a WWYD I guess.

My daughter has been bullied recently at school, some physical, some verbal and this week the bullies poured laxatives into her water bottle at lunchtime and I had to leave work to collect her.

I’ve not heard anything more from the school or the parents and the children are still in school.

I’m interested to hear what you think and what you would do in this situation as this is not acceptable.

Without being unkind, I’d also add that you sound a little passive and timid. Perhaps your DD is similar? If so, she’ll be appearing to the bullies as an ideal victim. Model strength, action and determination to her. Phone the police asap.

Like others have said above, bullies are usually weak. I was bullied relentlessly when I followed the advice to ‘just ignore them’, but the day I snapped and went for the girl leading the bullies was the day the bullying stopped.

Police.

And if you have legal cover on your insurance ask them whether you can take civil action against them or their parents.

Definitely go to the
police, this isn’t just bullying, it’s abuse.

F making a scene! You need to do a police report.
Look into no win no claim lawyers to sue the family and school.

Honestly you need to look at criminal proceedings they are a danger and clearly so is the school.

Also look at moving your child, you need to protect her, why is she still in that school??
Get her into after school boxing clubs or something to give her confidence and a means to defend herself

Dds (state all girl) school takes leaving someone out a friendship group seriously if a parent complains - find the reaction of this school on this serious incident shockingly lax.

Please reassure your daughter that she is not going back to the school. She could have died.

I know you started this thread, @Halfordscarpark but at the same time it feels like you are not taking this seriously enough. If a group of your colleagues at work had done this to you or your husband would you take it so calmly? Not want to cause a scene?

I agree that going to the police will show the s ho (and the bullies) that this is actually very serious and they can’t just hope it will blow over. And also contact some other schools on Monday to get her in somewhere else, so that if her school doesn’t expel the bullies, she has a school place for September where she can make a fresh start, the poor lamb.

You need to raise hell.

I work in a school and our Head would contact the police herself about this.

I've just read your updates OP. With respect, you need to get angry. I'm livid and I dont even know you or your DD. Report this to the police TODAY and you need to be back in contact with the school head on Monday. Their lack of action so far is unacceptable and a safeguarding issue that I would also be reporting to the LEA/Governors/Ofsted.

Absolutely foul behaviour from those girls. Your poor DD, I'm so glad she's OK now. Are these bullies local to where you live? Please make sure she's OK and safe during the holidays.

Yes this is premeditation

How horrible. It ought to be a top urgent priority for the school to deal with something like this… I hope your daughter’s ok.

I agree but the kids are 13 not 10. Makes it much more serious I think, they would have known fine well what they were doing.

I'd also want to know where they got them from, a parent?

It’s not about “causing a scene”. Firstly those kids need stopping and police involvement will put the fear of god into them hopefully. But secondly your Dd needs to see that you have her back and will stand up for her and protect her.

Not sure what's funny about reporting. If a husband done this to a wife it would be LTB territory. Assualt/abuse is exactly that regardless of the relationship.

If pps are right that school are waiting for the holiday and not dealing with it it’s a disgrace - to let a child in their care go through that and go into the holiday with no reason to trust she’s going to be protected properly next term. Fingers crossed they are about to contact you with a proper response but if not something’s gone really wrong

No, I don’t believe a word of it. Pure fantasy.

I don’t know any parent who would shrug their shoulders and do nothing more for fear of ‘causing a scene’ in this sort of scenario.

Seriously OP, try harder.

I agree with everyone here, I would contact police. I am actually surprised the school hasn't.

Call police asap and report this assault and make it clear it is not ‘a school matter’ but a police matter and needs thorough investigation.

Letter to school stating factually what happened (what when where etc) the background bullying and how you are still awaiting a response from the school and this inaction is totally unacceptable.

That child will not be returning to school until you have written confirmation of how this is being dealt with and what’s steps are being put in place to deal with bullying and to ensure this doesn’t happen again . State that you have reported to police .

ask what supportive measures they are putting in place / counselling / mentoring etc to help her get over this.

this letter would be sent to school head and then I would CC in EVERYONE that I could think of :

governing body, individual letter to named safeguarding lead at school, head of pastoral support, form tutor, head of year etc, head of safeguarding at local authority, local MP, educational welfare officer at La., Social services , director of children’s services

(just look them all up on council / school website)

in short you go nuclear.

politely and factually - no need to be rude -
but you ensure that with anyone with interest in child welfare knows what these despicable children have done and also how displeased you are in how appallingly this has been handled.

you are not ‘making a fuss’ - this is serious and your child needs you to step up and ensure it never happens to them again.

you have right on your side . Do not let this go.

I’m so angry for you and your poor daughter! To trap her and make her feel so threatened she drank laxatives is truly terrible. I’d definitely call the police even if the school did handle it better. They’re 13 they knew what they were doing and presumably they thought it was funny! They need a hard shock and to see how ugly what they did is!

This is poisoning and assault and I would go nuclear. I'd go to the police and be straight with the school, those girls are suspended and are not to return until this is resolved. I would also contact the local authority and my MP. The school has a duty of care for your DD and the bullying stops now and steps are taken for her to be safe.

I'm furious in your behalf.

I don’t want to cause a scene but at the same time I can’t afford to let these kids get away with such harmful behaviour.

This is clearly "causing a scene" time. I'd report to the police too. It's extreme behaviour. Was there a big group of them. Did they use any physical restraint on your daughter when they were forcing her to drink?

Do you know if any of them filmed it?

Actually yes contact the funding body and label your email safeguarding. Also contact the specialist safeguarding team at your local authority. The school has failed to keep your DC safe and it would appear has done nothing about it since.

The bullying should have been sorted long before it got to this point and as it is the school is complicit in your DDs physical and psychological harm.

At 13 the girls can be held accountable. The police or other authorities taking action will sort them out.

I don't get bullies and I would be furious if this was my 2. Imagine being 13 and getting off on doing this to someone?

I too would contact the police. They can advise if nothing else.

I would also write formally to the school setting out what happened and noting the lack of response. Ask them what their proposals are for dealing with this incident.

Creating a written trail is important so that you have clear evidence. It should also focus their minds.

Police. I wouldn't feel bad about it.
your poor daughter