Schoolgirls spiked my daughter’s drink with laxatives.

[Halfordscarpark]

This is more of a WWYD I guess.

My daughter has been bullied recently at school, some physical, some verbal and this week the bullies poured laxatives into her water bottle at lunchtime and I had to leave work to collect her.

I’ve not heard anything more from the school or the parents and the children are still in school.

I’m interested to hear what you think and what you would do in this situation as this is not acceptable.

I would flip the f out on them
And take it into my own hands
But I know that's not always the right way but my protection instincts would just rage out of me how dare they!

You don't need the approval or permission of the school to contact the police, OP. Please do it.

Police as soon as possible.
Ruin those little fuckers weekend.
Hope your daughter is ok, my heart goes out to her having to be in school being hounded like that.

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Contact the police, first and foremost. This is a serious assault.

Demand an immediate meeting with the headteacher, head of year, and safeguarding lead. If you aren't satisfied with how they are handling it, write to the governors.

I would not be sending my child back to this school as long as her bullies remained in it. She should never need to look at them again,

Grow a spine, act like a parent, and stand the hell up for your daughter!

You’ve misunderstood the word “coercive”. It doesn’t mean without the target’s knowledge. It means to make someone do something.

The bullies made OP’s DD drink the water with laxatives in it. They didn’t need to be tasteless or invisible in the water because the DD was made to drink it as it was.

You definitely cannot let this go. You need to act for your daughter’s sake.

This happened where I work (girls spiked another with laxatives, other children noticed but didn't speak out until the child became ill)

The police were involved and the girls involved received cautions. 100% report this.

go to the police immediately, and take the water bottle - it will have their finger prints on and traces of the laxatives in it

@Jumpingthruhoops if the police are involved I can’t see OFSTED touching this incident until police investigation is over. And I absolutely endorse that the OP should go to the police.

But OP can go to school and say this is a serious breach of behaviour policy, what have you done about it? Did they take witness statements, did DD give incident report etc etc. The more knowledge OP has of what school have failed to do per their policies the better.

Problem is, horrific as this incident is, very difficult to stop something like this if a student is determined. But it is how the school reacts afterwards that is key. And it would appear from OP’s updates they haven’t done anything, especially if this was a week ago.

Police, governors, LEA

I’d report to the police over the weekend and tell the school on Monday what I’d done. Hand in a formal complaint letter as to how they have completely failed in their safeguarding of your daughter and then they have failed in their investigation and follow up. Ask for a copy of the complaint policy if one isn’t in the website and follow it .

Your daughter needs to see you fighting on her behalf as well, she must feel protected. Utterly disgusting and disturbing this was done to her and the school have totally let her down with their sloppy response

It is your job to cause a scene. A bloody massive one too.

Police should be notified and big escalation with the school too - head teacher, head of year, governors, all of them as required.

Come on OP, time to get furious and get some answers.

There was a criminal situation in my son's class when he was 7. (My son wasn't involved.)

The school will want to cover it up, not call the police, and will tell you not to call the police. They will tell you they are taking care of it internally but can't tell you how due to privacy reasons. They may offer you a class switch to keep you quiet.

Then, if the police are called and the media gets involved, half the parents will be mad you are bringing shame to their children's school and the other half will support holding people accountable for bad behavior. Total division.

It was a wild year for us (and there was no actual educating going on) and I transferred my son to a different school.

agreed....@Halfordscarpark Laxatives are extremely ''noticeable'' in taste and how they colour water.

I can't see how anyone could take a laxative and not know about it?

{Having been prescribed them they are all vile- some turn to a jelly, others taste almost saline. None leave water tasteless and clear.

Did you see the liquid in the bottle?

Your poor daughter, she must be terrified all the time.
What do you mean you don't want to cause a scene, it's your job to protect her.
I would be informing the police and demanding a meeting with the head teacher to find out what punishment they've had, suspension at least but I would them expelled.

You've not seen the explanation: the OP's daughter was coerced.

It says the bullies made OP's daughter drink it..just because a bully says ''drink this'' doesn't mean you have to.

Far better to have emptied out the bottle on the floor- than drink something any bully holds out to you...it could be something really dangerous.

Nasty cowardly girls..I'd have sprayed their faces with it.

Bullies usually crumple when their target retaliates.

They like quiet and submissive victims- bloody arseholes.

I hope OP's daughter finds her righteous anger.

You don't want to cause a scene??

What are you afraid of??

It is your JOB to cause a scene. To stand up for, protect and defend your child.

To call out the bullies and demand the school do its duty to protect other children.

To make the parents face what their children did to yours.

You're the adult. Find your anger and your instincts to do the right thing.

If you know it is true, please call the police. This sounds like the criminal offence called Offences Against The Person.

Your daughter could have been humiliated, poisoned, disabled or worse.

Bullies escalate. They may do it to someone else if they get away with it - it could be worse next time, and could be prevented.

These girls and their parents and the school as it happened there need a nasty shock.

Don't rely on the school, they may minimise it and fail to act. They may argue it was just a prank, harmless etc, but the effects can be very unpleasant.

Police asap.

Info about spiking:

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/spiking-factsheet/spiking-factsheet

Easy to say when you're not the one who has been outnumbered.

I've been there - the same age, many years ago. (No laxatives involved, but I was surrounded.) Tried fighting back. Finished up injured. I wish my parents had called the police, but they were frightened of authority: Dad's naturalisation papers had only gone through two years previously.

The only thing that stopped it was when I finally got the ringleader on her own.

I'm a retired secondary school middle manager. This will only be dealt with once the OP goes to the police.

Please stop blaming the victim.

I understand the fear of making a scene and asking AIBU. However, in this instance everyone benefits from you taking this to the police. The school, the bullies, other uninvolved pupils, you and - most importantly - your daughter. Everyone needs this to be dealt with seriously and professionally for there to be real resolution and repair. I’m sorry for you that it has fallen on you to step up alone to do the right thing in this situation - the school should be taking the reins - but you can do it. All the best.

@Halfordscarpark
I agree this is very serious and should be reported to the police. This is far beyond regular school bullying and into dangerous territory.

Throw the book at the little twats. Let us know how it goes.