Reasons you wouldn’t move to US

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Dh has been offered a job in the US. The increase in salary would put us into a completely different wealth bracket but I really don’t want to move.

• fear of home invasion with guns
• school shooting - guns in general I guess
• American exceptionalism attitude annoys me
• Being away from family
• Not having Europe on doorstep

Can I ask if you have any other reasons

There will be different reasons depending on where you're planning on moving to.

Healthcare would be a major one for me though.

I love it here in the UK ☺️

Guns
Taxes
Health care
Biden

Guns
Taxes
Health care
Biden
Trump

School shooting drills as well as the school shootings. Should think that's pretty anxiety inducing

Risk of Trump getting back in and god knows what that'd lead to

Terrible holidays for employees. Don't Americans get way less holidays than us?

Guns
Guns
Guns
Poor education system run by capitalists
Live to work culture
Lack of support if you're out of work
Lack of diversity for holidays - love Europe

Guns
Healthcare
Trump

Guns
Healthcare
Widespread erosion of women's rights
Trump

All of those. May not affect you but abortion restrictions would concern me, and the knock on affect on miscarriage - my friend in the US had a miscarriage and got interrogated by Doctors about whether she could have caused it (i.e, tried to lose the pregnancy). Horrific.

Oh and I forgot the frightening healthcare costs and over medicating by doctors

We had drills like this when l was teaching secondary (3 years ago) in the UK

Tipping culture

Death penalty, self ID, Trump supporters, Biden supporters, healthcare, guns, lack of legal safe abortion, it’s 50 degrees in California this week.

You couldn’t pay me any amount of money to live there. It’s a mad country.

Do you really think the Brits (I am one, btw) don't have a serious case of exceptionalism?!

Where would the job be? That makes a massive difference. In 30 years here, my home has never been invaded by guns, amazing though it may seem. The others, I grant you, though if you are going to be very well-off anyway, there are planes that go very regularly between the US and UK.

The school shootings would be the main one for me. Even though the chances of something happening aren't huge, all schools will do practice drills and classroom lockdowns etc. I just wouldn't want my child growing up doing that, I can't imagine how that must mess up their brains, preparing for the possibility they might be shot in a classroom.

Guns
School shootings
Healthcare
Abortion or the lack thereof
Lack of workers rights and holidays etc

We would probably be in Connecticut or NY state.

Which state OP so we can be specific?

All of this.

Which bit of America? I know it’s technically one country but culturally it’s massively different in San Francisco compared to New York compared to Chicago compared to Charleston…..etc. Also flight times/direct flight availability from wherever you are: would you need to fly internally to then fly back to UK?

Access to healthcare
Guns
Abortion laws (area dependent)
Gang violence (area dependent)
Opioid crisis (area dependent)
Cost of healthy food
Poor educational system (area dependent)
Proximity to family and friends

I am from Canada and have reservations about the States as well as the UK. In all honesty though, in a nice area in the States with a decent salary and benefits package, you'd likely be looking at a better quality of life than in the UK.

It would depend on the city for me and there are a few that I’d definitely move to but broadly

• guns
• Healthcare
• maternity and sick leave policies
• the car-centric culture and associated drunk driving

None of these seem a reason to dismiss going. Millions of Americans are not affected by school shootings . It would be the same as if they were citing knife crime , stabbings as a reason not to live in UK .
Healthcare is usually covered by employers as part of the package .
Family can visit . Europe not close but US has a rich and varied landscape.
Politics is complicated but each state has its own laws too.
Guess I am the only cheerleader for urging you to consider the positives too.

I get paranoid as it now with locking up the house at night. Can’t imagine how I would sleep knowing a man with a gun could enter my house and overpower my entire family. Terrifying. Especially as Dh is often away for work.

American in the US here - my kid’s private Catholic elementary school used to do lockdown drills, but hasn’t in the past few years. When they did, they framed it to the kids as “what we do if a person who isn’t safe gets into the school.” That could be anything from a mass shooter to knife crime to a noncustodial parent looking to take their child without permission.

What state is it, OP?