Me or friend

[Badassbreastfeeder85]

I went to visit my friend (L) with my 12 yo DS and 14 month old DD. Me and L have been friends about 20 years. She's recently had a guy (B) move in with her, she's known him 2 years after he messaged her on FB and they've had an on/off sexual relationship for 2 years,not exclusive and they now work for the same company. Prior to Saturday I've met him briefly 2 or 3 times,he's met my DD once. She had a contact nap and when she woke I went for a wee,I came downstairs to find DD laying on B lap and he'd finished changing her nappy, L was in the kitchen cooking,it's open plan flat but she was busy and had her back to the room. I was stunned,I stayed for a little while longer,on the drive home it bothered me significantly and the next day I messaged to say I found it inappropriate and unnecessary. She has reacted by saying some hurtful things and blocked me.
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Hi OP, was just thinking about this thread and wondered what came of it. Is your friend still seeing the guy and did the police find anything? Appreciate you can’t disclose but I assume as this is anonymous you can say either way? Hope you are okay and that your friend has seen the light!

She still seems besotted with him, he's still single on Facebook tho so lovely commitment there from him we've had no contact and I'm now 18 weeks pregnant so it's hard not having her to talk to about it 🙁 police had nothing to disclose

Oh that’s rubbish, I’m really sorry to hear that. Hopefully she will come to her senses soon!

Incredible that you're more bothered about the mother of a child looking after its wellbeing than a strange man performing intimate care on a baby without need or permission.