To be mildly astonished at these moms?

[ShutterNutBosh]

Hullo good afternoon.

I'm a parent of an 18 year old lad.

He's going on a group holiday with 7 friends tomorrow to Ibiza.

We have a moms' group chat. Had it for many years as 5 of from primary joined the same secondary school together and we've socialised since as families and 3 other moms have joined over the years as their children palled up with our 5.

It appears that several of the moms are packing for their offspring for this trip.

I'm a smidge astounded at this, these are captured children who are mostly off to university soon. This doesn't seem to be helping to pack, it's actually packing for them. 🤨 a couple have mentioned its just easier that way, one child is swampy in bed with a hangover.

Where's the encouragement to independence?

YABU: it's fine for moms (or parents but in this case is definitely the female parents) to pack for 18 year Olds.

YANBU: a bit of guidance or nowt help at all is the way to go

I’m from Yorkshire 👍

Nevertheless, just an hour north from you people say Mam and and ninety minutes to the south west millions of people in the UK's second largest city and its surrounding areas, people say Mom.

Further afield in NI it's Mammy.

Hullo and welcome to Momsnet.

ChatGB/AI posts are pretty common on here, and OP made a typo which confused it. It if was so obvious other people wouldn’t have questioned it too 🙄

If this is real, why does it matter so much to you what other people are doing or how they go about things?

You do you, let them do them.

🤣🤣🤣

It’s really not

Different vowel sounds though.

The 'u' in Mum sounds the same as the 'o' in Mother. The 'o' in Mom does not, so on a phonetic basis Mum makes more sense.

Yes I'm going to guide. But not do it all.

I think that’s the pot calling the kettle mid-grey.
Your child is plenty old enough not to be “guided”.
My 14yo packs for 2 week holidays with multiple activities to consider outfits for herself.

A colleague of mine always used to holiday-pack for her dh - and he was in the military police and had been posted overseas more than once! I asked why on earth she’d pack for him - she said because he’d be really grumpy if he forgot anything - as he had before, and had to go and buy underpants or whatever.

I once forgot to pack any knickers when we went to a wedding in the Czech Rep. Went straight out shopping on the first morning - I’ve never been so pleased in my life to see an M&S in Wenceslas Square!

Where Mom is used in the British Isles

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/ULuEV4UkaAbZ2ip5/

Click on the link for the other six maps covering Mum, Mam, Mummy etc

@PandorasJam Just letting you know that the mouthful of red wine l took while reading your comment is now all over the screen !!

Sometimes I treat my adult DCs like young children. I don't do it for them, I do it for me. It feels like an act of love that I don't have the opportunity to do very often. And, yes, i trained them to be capable, independent people when they were a lot younger.

Your post shows no compassion for parents that are soon going to be sending their boys off to university for the first time.

It really, really isn't.

Scroll up a bit to the map that I posted that shows where it IS used. It might be a small area, but it's very real. My mum was infuriated by her carer from the Black country, who used Mom. She simply wouldn't accept that it was normal where she grew up.

I migrated from Liverpool to West Cheshire and Mommy is used a lot here.

I don’t doubt it. I wouldn’t have said mammy or mam were the common American word for mum though.

Yeah I’m not the one that sounds stupid making out like it’s not common to say mum in the UK.

No one has though.

Posters have only pointed out that mum is not the only termed used in the UK and that mom isn’t just used in the States (also used in Australia btw). You’re the one who decided that because you, personally never heard mom used in the UK, there was something amiss.

Wow 😄 I’m from Birmingham and ‘mum’ sounds insufferably posh to me. Makes me cringe.

Yanbu I went to France at 18. I was already at uni and living 3 hours away from home so very much did the whole thing completely myself.

Nope I explained why I thought it read like a robot and mom was one of several things. And they have, you can see in the quotes I said as a general rule people say mum (I had already acknowledged it’s a regional thing to say mom), and the poster said it isn’t. Therefore suggesting it’s not common to say mum in the UK. ‘Not a general rule - YOU say mum maybe’. There you go.

Like I said, plenty of silly people out there

Round here Mum is pronounced 'Bruh' 😂

Side note, contraception chat and discussion about being drunk on balconys and near pools as well as taking dodgy pills....sorry 😬

Not where I am from!

What?! Even my 12 yo would laugh in my face if I tried to pack for her!!