DHs reaction to sharing job is bothering me

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DH is a teacher at a private secondary school, he's worked there for 10 years, loves the school and is great at his job. He works 4 days a week as he is trying to write his own book.
Recently his department head retired, the competition for new department head has been tough both internally and externally but he's put his all in.
Recently it was announced he would be the joint head of department, his co-head would be a relatively young teacher from another school, this will be just her 6th year of teaching.
They explained the reasons are that they both work over 4 days (though DH did make it clear if he was given department head he would be willing to go up to 5 if successful) and that they felt their skill sets were complimentary. DH asked more on what they meant, and the effectively said he has the experience and leadership skills but she has the fresh ideas, innovation and drive.
Now DHs reaction has been immature and really bothered me. He effectively saying he doesn't want to do it if he has to share, he thinks it will lead to fall out and he doesn't want to be forced into untested new ideas. He's also made several comments that have bothered me after they met up this week for the first time.

1. He told me that she is newly married and he asked if kids were on the cards soon (I've told him how wrong it is to ask this), she replied with in the next couple of years yes. So now he is complaining that it is a joint role but he will end up doing it alone while she's on maternity leave (confused as I thought that would make him happy!)
2. They discussed pay (again fear DH may have been the one to bring this up!), turns out they are getting the exact same pay and benefits. He thinks this is an insult to his experience. I said I think it's fair as they will be doing the same job and should be paid the same amount accordingly
3. He has made several comments of "have to comprise with a woman at home and now at work too"

AIBU to be really bothered by this reaction and to think it's disgusting. It's actually making me question everything!! Or is it fair to be annoyed?

Well—he is really arrogant.

Ew

Yes this is how he is making me feel too!

He sounds like a complete arsehole.

Wow. Is this out of character or...?

He’s being a bit of an idiot but he’s likely just a bit disappointed and feeling a bit not good enough which I think is understandable. I’d probably forgive him a couple of days as long as it didn’t persist

The misogyny is out of character but the inflated sense of self importance is a recurring issue.

Sounds like he's got a problem with women OP. I feel sorry for this woman having to work with such a dinosaur. He had no right to ask her such personal questions and obviously has a problem with being equal to a woman.

I don't think the Head of Department job share is a very good idea tbh, but I agree that his reasons are childish and sexist and would absolutely give me 'the ick'.

Doesn't think much of women does he.

How does that make you feel now he's articulated that?

Wow he's being vile. Is he always like this about women? Does he have any insight into what he's saying?!

Yanbu. I've been teaching 27 years, current department I am part of is managed in a similar way ( more experienced male teacher, younger female teacher) and it works perfectly well. Your husband sounds immature and patronising.

He thinks he's better than women doesn't he?

Sounds like you're married to a misogynistic prat.

Bet he’d be fine to job share with a man. Wanker.
Bet he tries to make it really difficult for her. Tosser.

He might be making stupid comments but to be fair to him, I wouldn’t want to share with someone with such little experience. If you cut to the core, they want him to train her. Then she will be trained up and they’ll get rid of him.

I used to work in education and I can't decide if I think it's a good idea or not. I believe they are going to split responsibilities rather than dealing with everything together but I still see some rocky moments coming up. I also can't see how it's economically viable for a private school right now to hire two for a job that could be done by one.
Though I can see that 2 heads may be better than one.

Will her role be covered whilst she’s on maternity or will he be expected to cover her? At I presume a not increased wage? If so I wouldn’t be happy either.

He thinks they will just hire someone to cover her teaching duties (they are both going to have a class or 2 each) but not necessarily her leadership duties. However she isn't pregnant, or on maternity so it's a moot point until that happens.

Who fucking cares? She's not even bloody pregnant - for all everyone knows they'll be dealing with infertility or adoption but it's no one else's business!!

Christ, this kind of behaviour is exactly how pigs of men get away with it all.

He sounds like a nob, but I do agree that a HOD job share is a terrible idea!

I'm glad you feel it works well, there seems to be some split in his department as to if they think it's a good idea or not. Do you feel there are any issues he should be aware of beforehand so he can prevent them?

This.

OP, you said that your husband doesn't want to do untested new ideas but it does sound like one of the reasons why they decided to pick her - fresh ideas. Maybe he should have a little think about how he wasn't exactly what they wanted and maybe just maybe she might be better than him in some ways.

He sounds like an arse tbh.

This would honestly give me pause about the man I married.

His words are massively misogynistic.

Leadership isn't about 'time served'. Six years of teaching experience is hardly a box fresh graduate is it anyway?

He's probably feeling a bit bruised that they didn't want him as just him 4 days.

School probably realised to recruit they need to offer more than just a 'teacher of' job.

He's being a twat, if he carries it on more than today I'd tell him to stfu.