To admit I live like this to see if anyone else does?

[11ds]

I keep this a secret. I don’t expect it to be common but I wonder if anyone else lives like this?

I have a nice home, I am a single parent to a toddler. I look totally normal to the outside world and dress well etc. I am clean. DS’s spaces are always clean and tidy. But the rest of my home is awful. My bedroom is littered with tissue and labels from clothes or empty toilet rolls. It’s cluttered. Boxes still unopened from when I moved a year ago. I don’t let ds see any of this.

I don’t have a sofa. I have no rugs or a wardrobe (ds has a wardrobe). I keep my clothes in a pile on the floor.

I don’t own proper cooking utensils or oven gloves. I just pick food from the oven with my sleeve. I don’t have a duvet cover. I have one tiny hand towel to dry body and hair.

these are just a few weird things. It’s not a money problem. I have 100k savings and earn 4.5k a month. I spend money on nice make up and will get my hair done or buy ds nice toys etc. I always think one day I will sort a wardrobe etc but I never get round to it. I never feel it’s justified as I’ve just got used to living like this.

I don’t know what’s wrong with me? I assume this isn’t common? Am I mentally unwell? I dare not share it with anyone IRL!

Surprised at this, really? She’s no duty to her kid? She can live with rubbish all over the floor, no basics, as long as she’s happy?

Who said her child doesn't have the basics? OP said he has a nice space. Unless it's unhygienic such as left over food or nappies and its not so cluttered it would be a fire risk then OP having a messy bedroom has zero impact on her child.

Do you find the work to sort stuff overwhelming and don't know where to begin or perhaps you think you need a day or two to set your mind on it and do it but can't do it in between other things (and there is never enough time with a toddler of course).

Yes my adult dd has ADHD and is exactly as you describe.