To think a lot of men aren't that bothered about women being ultra slim?

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From what I've seen around me, men seem to be happiest with average-sized/curvier women.

A colleague of mine is a football player and very into fitness and his girlfriend is quite overweight, they've been together 6 years.

A man I liked who is quite thin, he wasn't interested. His ex is at our workplace and is significantly overweight.

I know this sounds nasty and rude, it probably is. However I feel like on the whole men aren't that bothered about women having figures like Victoria's Secret models, and personality is more important.

Healthy weight covers a great range. Curvy size 12-14 women aren't fat or obese. Ask men if they prefer a healthy weight woman or an obese one and you will get a different answer.

My DH doesn’t find thin women attractive at all. He says he couldn’t fancy cuddling skin and bone and prefers soft and cuddly, Good job for me. 😂

My experience tells me as long as women have reasonable figures, preferably not too skinny or obese, then a pretty face is more important along with a compatible personality 😊

There's really no need to put other women down to feel better about yourself.

I think this. My dh prefers slim sporty women. I was slim when I met him 25 years ago but now I’m short and a bit overweight at 53 and he’s still slim.

I asked him this question and he said he wouldn’t have dated someone overweight in his twenties but now he loves me and it doesn’t matter. He admitted he would prefer me to be a bit slimmer but as you (generic ‘you’) get older ‘you have to be realistic’.

Not quite sure what to make of that! Replying to your post @Ginkypig my husband was already quite bald by his mid twenties. Before I met him. It didn’t bother me.

Lots of men I know like curvy women, with pear-shaped or hourglass figures if plus-sized. They’re not that keen on the apple-shapes where the weight is carried on the belly.

100% a shit song!

Paul Heaton going around in an anorak buying pints in pubs for his 60th was just ....contact embarrassment! Mate, you are not a student anymore! Any danger of him growing up?!

They do objectify women regardless of if that right or wrong. I think the real difference is who men will sleep with and who they actually like and want stay with.

I think times are changing for sure in that respect. There is a cultural ellimimate. In my DH culture curvey women (not obese) are more attractive. I know he has said he refused to marry potentials due to them being slim/skinny.
He himself is average and his family are all petite / average. But they look at curves as attractive.

This is so true. Plus the Roald Dahl thing about always looking lovely if you have lovely thoughts!

This isn't really a very nice or accurate way to think about men or women, is it?

Guy here. Interesting to look at paintings from over 100 years ago and earlier and survey what was considered 'female beauty' and the 'ideal figure.' Women had the kind of figure that would get a beauty centre frothing at the mouth and pushing a woman to sign up for several thousand pounds worth of 'treatment.'

Having said that, look at pics of Marilyn Monroe, too.

You might care to look up how the term 'cellulite' is an artificial expression made up by men.

What we are looking at now is an outgrowth of the highly lucrative beauty industry that generates billions every year from women's insecurities.

My biggest turn on as far as a woman is concerned is her intellect.

Your name made me laugh!! I am “curvy” but could also describe myself as “fat”- Im
now wondering at what point does curvy stop? I have never fancied the six pack type gym bunnies and would much prefer a
dad bod but that’s just me.

It might not be nice but it is accurate, imo.

I've been saying for decades, why are the vast majority of influential fashion designers for womens clothes gay men. Nobody has ever explained it. Yet again men putting their nose in where it isn't wanted really.

I know he has said he refused to marry potentials due to them being slim/skinny.

Wow your husband is such a peach. You’re so lucky.

I've always been on the top end of healthy weight/overweight and I've always attracted men. I'm not saying I'm a stunner, just averagely attractive but my body type and size is certainly appealing to men. It's a myth that the most attractive body type to men is slim/thin. In fact most men I've been with are attracted to lots of body types from slim to overweight. They don't really care that much as long as there are curves!

Well women who are hoping to attract a male sexual partner clearly do care about what men find attractive. It's not shameful to want to be sexually desired by your partner.

The obsession with being skinny has always been a female preoccupation, not a male one.

There may be a subset of men who are fixated on this but the vast majority find this bemusing.

As others have said if you are confident and moderately attractive and as long as you’re not grossly overweight they don’t give a shit.

I was a slim size 10 when I met my DP but I’m now a 14/16 and overweight but he still loves me regardless and does fancy me. His ex was overweight though so isn’t a deal breaker for him.

my ex on the other hand used to make a big deal of my weight and made it very clear he preferred me smaller than bigger.

I would imagine they don't find him attractive either so not really an issue.

I’m skinny AF and never had a problem attracting men. This thread is quite insulting tbh - suspect there is, regardless of what a lot of people think men seem to think (& who cares?!), jealousy towards thin woman as most (not all, but most) women want to be thinner than they are, hence the mega diet industry out there.

Some of you would do well to stop trying to convince yourselves being fat is better because it apparently means more men will fancy you, when you know deep down your health is being slowly trashed.

How unattractive that your partner is describing slim women in such a horrible misogynistic way, what a huge turn off 🙄This is no different to a man making gross remarks about overweight women.

How is that misogynistic? The words “skin and bone” can apply equally to a man. I personally find very thin men very unattractive.