To think a lot of men aren't that bothered about women being ultra slim?

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From what I've seen around me, men seem to be happiest with average-sized/curvier women.

A colleague of mine is a football player and very into fitness and his girlfriend is quite overweight, they've been together 6 years.

A man I liked who is quite thin, he wasn't interested. His ex is at our workplace and is significantly overweight.

I know this sounds nasty and rude, it probably is. However I feel like on the whole men aren't that bothered about women having figures like Victoria's Secret models, and personality is more important.

Men seem to like boobs, bums and curves. I only realised this recently after being insecure throughout my 20s and starving myself. I'm a pretty average 14 now and have more attention than when I was a size 10. I think a lot of it is being happy with yourself and body confidence - that is far more attractive than a self-conscious food-dodger (which I once was - and obviously not much fun to be around!)
As a previous poster said the Beautiful South Song is spot on - men like something they can hold!

Men do tend to like boobs and butts. But they are individuals with different preferences too.

Putting personalities aside, I honestly think that if you presented a man with the choice of a slim, toned 21 year old and a 'curvy' 40 year old to shag, the majority would choose the former. Most men are pretty shallow, you only have to look at your average porn star to see what the majority are attracted to.

There's also a world of difference between the type of 'curvy' woman that men perve over in magazines (Kelly Brook, for example) and your average woman on the street.

This couple with confidence will get any man.

But as a previous poster above said, who cares what men (i.e. me) think? I have quickly realised as I have gotten older than men are the weaker sex. That's why society wants to remind you that men are the be all and end all. We're not. Years away from now, possibly even 100s or 1000s, women will become the dominant sex and men will be nothing more than sperm donors. Luckily I don't live in the future 😂

I don't think men are all that particular in general, to be honest. A nice looking woman who laughs at their jokes and is willing to shag them seems to hit enough buttons overall.

I've never not been critiqued.

I think it’s probably variable depending on the man and what they specifically find attractive, the same as for women. However if I’m completely honest I do think men are somewhat more shallow.

That being said I don’t think anyone should let it define how they approach their own appearance etc, if you are confident and happy with how you look then that should be your aim, if people are attracted to you great if not that’s okay not everyone is attracted to everyone else …. If it’s not clicking with particular men then it’s just not their jam … no big deal.

I'd like to add that my DH loves my body as long as it's not dangerously unhealthily underweight. (Or I'd imagine- overweight if I was more that way inclined). I'm pretty sure he'd be a bit sad if I suddenly had a totally flat chest though, lol. Thankfully my boobs seem to remain when I'm a bit thinner. Never had an arse in my life, completely flat as a pancake! Nobody's perfect, eh?

When I was at what I call my best, size 8, slim and toned I got noone actively try to chat me up in real life. When I was a size 12, I got a lot of attention. I do think most men like a normal body.

@GreyCarpet 😱 how did you respond?

All the men I see on dating apps are obsessed with the gym and outdoor sports. I am fat (sz 18) but pretty and just assume no men will be interested in me for anything other than sex. I'd love to meet someone, but I've given up really for various reasons.

YANBU.

Heterosexual Men are genetically programmed to be attracted to women with feminine curves which indicate fertility. That’s just basic evolutionary biology.

Never forget that the global fashion industry, which has always fetishised very thin, almost androgynous looking women is run almost exclusively by homosexual men. They aren’t attracted to women with feminine curves, but they very much are attracted to skinny, androgynous looking young men…

I put on weight (and also just got generally curvier / squishier) after having kids and my husband couldn't care less I actually think he prefers it. That said he clearly also liked my body when I was very slim. So yeah, not fussy I guess.

I don't think men are fussy personally 🤷 I've dated body builders and I'm an average size 10/12 mum bod.

I've been very thin, average and a bit fat. Men definitely prefer the very slim/gym fit. I mean the difference is shocking, not just in the way they treat me, speak to me and approach me but even the way they look at me. Sucks but it's true.

Depends on the man, I've known plenty who like slim women.

I’ve always been a scrawny little thing and men have always been all over me. My DH loves my little body. Sorry not sorry.

Every woman I've ever been out with has had a pretty face. I've been out with women who are size 8s, I've been out with women who are size 20s. The only thing that has ever mattered to me physically is their smile, and how much that smile reached their eyes.

Most men just aren’t fussy at all. It’s not really worth worrying about what they prefer because they’ll take anything.

Wish I had realised this when I was much younger, was actually very pretty, and didn’t have the confidence to flirt with any remotely attractive men!

Depends on the type of bloke, surely? The kind of blokes I know - I agree - they're more interested in someone who's nice, fun, friendly, makes them feel good, easy to be around - pretty is a bonus. Honestly, I know very few 'trophy' type women, but then I know very few men who spend their lives at the gym either. Like attracts like - if you're a bloke who is really buff presumably you want a woman who looks amazing too. But looks don't equal personality. I'd much rather be with someone who's nice!

My DH prefers skinny women. However, I was a size 6 when we met and now we’ve been together a while I’m a 8/10 and he loves me more. Admittedly we do have 100 times less sex so he probably is less attracted to me if he was honest but he wouldn’t leave me if I got bigger.

I’ve been very skinny in my past and it’s clear men have preferences as we do! Some used to like stroking my bones and throwing me around while others used to try and feed me constantly 😂

well said

What is a "normal" body? Women come in all shapes and sizes, all are normal.

There is a nasty undercurrent to this thread.

indeed.

I don’t really like this kind of discussion as it’s all about stereotypes and women changing themselves for the male gaze

just do what you want to do not for a man.

I’m not trying to be thinner to make a man fancy me, I don’t want to be overweight as it’s too much on my joints and I don’t feel healthy that way. I feel healthy now I have lost it. Couldn’t give a shit if my DP decides he doesn’t fancy me, it’s for my health I wouldn’t put the weight back on for him and I wouldn’t have lost it for him either!