To think a lot of men aren't that bothered about women being ultra slim?

[Voilafrancais]

From what I've seen around me, men seem to be happiest with average-sized/curvier women.

A colleague of mine is a football player and very into fitness and his girlfriend is quite overweight, they've been together 6 years.

A man I liked who is quite thin, he wasn't interested. His ex is at our workplace and is significantly overweight.

I know this sounds nasty and rude, it probably is. However I feel like on the whole men aren't that bothered about women having figures like Victoria's Secret models, and personality is more important.

Totally agree, I think initial attraction has all its quirks and preferences, but once you're 'in' with a relationship I don't know if it matters in the same way. I do sometimes wonder if DH thinks back wistfully to the way I was at 21 😂

I see a lot of women- particularly skinny women- are really offended by this thread. Men like boobs and bums - what a shocker. There really is nothing to be offended by and agree with pp that as long as you are not grossly overweight and you are up for getting naked with a man I'm sure he will want to sleep with you. I think men tend to like a range of bodyshapes. And that is all!

I think heterosexual men like women of all shapes and sizes. Some have a preference for slim or curvy but most aren't limited to one body type.

I've been saying this for years.

Sorry but I’m not sure what your actual question is?

do men find fat women attractive? Yes. Lots and lots of them.

does that answer your question?

They’re not designing clothes for women. They’re designing clothes that would actually look best on young, thin, men. As women we have, for decades, been subjected to mostly unrealistic beauty standards, and we are far far far too hard on ourselves. It matters less what men think of us, and more what we think about ourselves. If a man is attracted to very slender women, well then he’s not the man for me - and that’s ok.

Skinny women have boobs and bums too, as I’ve already said I’m a size 8/10 and have double D breasts. I suspect most ‘curvy’ women on this thread are more bordering on obese and their husbands (who love them and still want to have sex will obviously say whatever is needed to make them happy) are probably no picture themselves, and that is ok but don’t tell me any of them are happy in themselves because they have to put women like me down to feel good about themselves.

I don't think men are overly fussy tbh - as long as you have a vagina that they think they'll get to stick their penis in at some point, you're good.

Men like 'curves', whether that's on a smaller frame or a bigger one. I'm small and curvy and men go mad for it. I have a 24 inch waist with bigger hips and bum. Men stare and comment on my figure frequently.

I think the men who are genuinely interested in a relationship are more interested in your face. The ones who want sex are more interested in your figure.

I think attraction is a strange and complex thing that you can’t really rationalise or predict. And while many can probably notice preferences or trends in their dating and attraction history, physicality isn’t the whole story … and anyone who goes purely for one physical type is extremely shallow, narrow and limited!

And to add - I am not massively offended if your (generic you) husband doesn’t want to sleep with me because mine does - and your husbands are probably not the type to have a trail of women chasing after them anyway.

It's reducing women's attractiveness to their size and making gross remarks about their physicality- haven't men done enough of that for literally decades?.

It's totally fair enough to have a body preference in terms of attractiveness but why the need for the insulting qualification about skin and bone afterwards?- why not just say "I find curvier women attractive" and leave it at that?

Would it be ok for a man to say he doesnt find larger women attractive and then qualify that afterwards by saying he doesnt want to hug rolls of fat that feel like marshmallow? I doubt anyone would think that was an acceptable to say so why the double standard.

You can have preferences without insulting people and thats what makes it grossly unattractive to me. I couldnt be with a man who said stuff like that about women.

And it’s ok for you to put other women down too?

this thread is so fucking nasty.

I don’t really care what men think, I’m slim because I’m fit and strong and healthy.

If it’s ok for them then it’s ok for me, I’m not interested in taking the higher ground.

@DracoDormiensNumquamTittilandum

It's not shameful to want to be sexually desired by your partner.

No it’s not but it is fairly irrational and silly to put yourself and your body through a lot of stress and risk mental illness for something if the chances are your partner doesn’t care about it anyway.

Then your all a bunch of bitches then. how attractive!

I see a lot of women- particularly skinny women- are really offended by this thread. Men like boobs and bums - what a shocker

I'm very slim and am 36D bra size (have been since age 14) so you are being silly to suggest anyone who is slim does not have breasts or a bum. Either that or you have seen a weirdly limited range of body types

Would it be ok for a man to say he doesnt find larger women attractive and then qualify that afterwards by saying he doesnt want to hug rolls of fat that feel like marshmallow?

"Like yoghurt in a carrier bag."

You misunderstand misogyny. “Skin and bone” and “rolls of fat that feel like marshmallow” could equally be said of male bodies, ergo it’s not misogyny. Please don’t tell me that women don’t judge men’s attractiveness on their physicality because we all know that’s nonsense.

This thread is full of people claiming “men” like whatever body type theirs is 😂 Big women claiming they are sexy and curvy… skinny women objecting that not only big women are curvy… etc etc.

Men don’t like one thing! Also who cares?! There’s someone for everyone, and aren’t we past thinking pf ourselves aa objects of male desire?! Be whatever size is fit and healthy for you and wear what you like.

Also if you want to attract the attention of the kind of men who stare at you in the street/pub it’s easy: either be extremely young, or put makeup on and wear heels and tight clothes. If you’d like extra attention make lots of eye contact. It’s not complicated nor a marker of how attractive you are. 💐

(Sadly, I got the most male attention in the street when I was 14-18 wearing scruffs or school clothes. I now dress I’m a way that doesn’t attract the wolf whistling type. Not that I’m particularly hot or anything!)

Many of both sexes would f##k a frog if it didn't hop. And if you marry someone of a certain weight, there's no guarantee they will stay that weight. And divorce is difficult if you don't like the 'new' weight - not really legit grounds!

We now have coined the term inter-weight relationships. For crying out loud, what is wrong with people? What a stupid, stupid thing to be discussing; who the fuck's businesss is it if they are a Jack Spratt and his wife?

@AgathaAllAlong
We don't measure the beauty of any other creature or thing on earth based on how much a man wants to have sex with it. Why should we measure women this way?

I fucking love this 😂

can’t stop imagining Dave from accounts frantically rubbing one out to a lovely sunset, or a bunch of peonies, or the little colourful houses along the amalfi coast😂😂😂

No, I dont accept that because men arent judged on their appearances like women are. Growing up, all I ever saw were adverts and media with a focus on women's bodies, never mens. There is a judgment and pressure on women to look a certain way that there has never been on men so its not remotely comparable.

"Like yoghurt in a carrier bag."- would this be ok for a man to say about a larger woman?

Making personal remarks is not ok- and that applies to ALL body shapes and sizes. Anyone who does this is gross. End of.

What on earth is this thread? Curvy women are normal and real, and slim womeh are abnormal freaks?

It's pathetic, pitting women against each other. Even more pathetic is the rush to piss on slim women.