Partner didn't drive me to my C-section appointment

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He decided he would go to work on the day of my C-section, and decided it would be okay for me to get on 2 buses to go to the hospital with my heavy suitcase, even though I'm walking gingerly at 39 weeks pregnant. He said he'd meet me there once the action starts, (but not a second before, what with the epidural injection, the prep and checks, he doesnt want to see all that) so no emotional support, nor help, not even help with packing from the day/night before. Instead he was hanging out with friends last night til 12midnight.
I decided last minute to get an Uber, £17 to the hospital, and I've taken a screenshot of the fare so he can pay it. I don't see why he couldn't give me a lift instead, and then come back with public transport himself. Am I being unreasonable?

So sorry for you you are going to need lots of help when you come home with the baby and after a operation You will be tired and in pain so I hope he knows how to cook and clean so you can rest and the washing and shopping He needs to get his act together and if I was your midwife I would tell him so Good luck

I’d divorce him if he’s your husband.

What an absolute rat

I yet again- would love to know who the 2% are that said you are being unreasonable. Probably a man. Absolutely disgusting. I’d leave the prick

You would only be unreasonable if you stay with this selfish dickhead. Please do not waste another moment of your precious life on him.

Omg what sort of father will he be , did he actually want a baby , I’d dump him be a happy single parent as I think you will have an unhappy life with someone so selfish , good luck

Yikes! He’d be an ex partner after that if it were me. How awful! Sorry you had to go through that. Hope your c-section went well.

oh good god people, read the thread!!

Or at least the OPs posts, where she clarifies that HE IS AN EX PARTNER

Congratulations on your baby boy OP

Is he usually useless or is this a breakdown ? This is disgraceful behaviour and I think you need to end this

I cannot believe what l have just read..How sad for you....It's at these times you need your partner, after all he did contribute to your condition. Being honest he is a selfish mean man....If his behaviour so far is anything to go by, you should fire him off. If there is no support now, there definitely won't be any when the baby arrives. If you can, get someone else to be with you, you need a friendly face to hold your hand. Get rid, l really hope everything goes well for you. Good luck

The main thing is you and baby are well and so many congratulations on that!

As for this ludicrous man, he is a total disgrace. I feel a complete stranger you’d met en route to the hospital would have done more for you.

It is feasible that struggling in as you did could have caused medical problems, threatening the physical safety of you and your baby, let alone the lack of support raising your risk of ppd. All that could severely affect his child.

I saw a quote the other day that is 100% true…if you love a child, don’t break their mother.

So yeah, he’s a useless POS partner and a useless POS dad. No offence to your mum, but she’s obviously been conditioned to tolerate outrageous behaviour too.

Enough already.

That is awful. I am so sorry.

Congratulations on the birth of your son ((hug)).

That’s no partner. What a jerk.

There are some weapons grade assholes out there atm. Agog at this.

Words fail me. If this is what he considers normal behaviour I don't know what the future holds for you. This makes me so incredibly sad. Hope the birth went well and you enjoy your new baby x

Probably the women who gave birth in a field and carried on picking spuds.

He has demonstrated how little he cares about you with his selfish attitude. You are a Queen, the Mother of his child and he should treat you as if you are the most important person on the planet. If you don't put a high value on yourself you cannot expect him to. Get rid asap and find a partner that appreciates how great you are.

Sadly I cant see this man wanting to take part in the childs life, no night feds are dirty nappies or changing his social life to accommodate a babies needs never mind yours.
I wish you and your little one the best of luck in everything you do.

Get rid of him he’s awful

Well, he's proved he well and truly not a partner, and he has alsomfailed miserably as the father of your children.

Your mum has raised you with very low expectations of what a partner should be. Please work on yourself once things calm down and in the meantime if you are in any doubt if what is reasonable or not, come here and ask!

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your son. I'm glad it's not your first and I'm glad you seem to have your head screwed on but please please please raise those expectations, and if you find it really hard for yourself, do it for your kids. If it's a case of faking it until you make it - that's good enough.

Best of luck. Xxx

Maybe they're voting unreasonable because OP is still having contact with him?

Congratulations! Welcome little one..

I hope you have someone else to give you some emotional support , big hugs , stay strong for the future and concentrate on you and your baby .