Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To not want to ‘sit in the park’ on a second date?

458 replies

LookOverHere · 01/07/2024 17:38

I met a chap on a dating app a few weeks ago, we met up for a drink for our first date and it was fun. He’s calm, has a good sense of humour, nice smile, good job. Both in our late 40’s. He texted me the day after to say he’d love to see me again, and since then he’s sent the occasional text, thoughtful, remembers what I’ve said. But… for the second he suggested “shall we sit in the park?”

AIBU to be disappointed with this? What does it even mean… I’m too old to be hanging out in the park! That’s where I had my teenage dates. The weather forecast also says rain. It’s not a picnic, or he’d mention it. I think it’s a low effort suggestion, a bit weird for a professional guy, and something I might do with a friend or colleague (we sometimes grab a coffee in the park). All my successful relationships all started with a romantic meal. Is this how it is these days? All views welcome…

OP posts:
Needmorelego · 07/07/2024 17:03

@LookOverHere so.....
Did you go to the park?

jeaux90 · 07/07/2024 17:16

Go was the date OP?

Greenangeleyes · 07/07/2024 18:07

Tell him Covid restrictions finished a good while ago!

MalbecMel · 07/07/2024 18:07

Have you considered... suggesting an alternative?!

twinklystar23 · 07/07/2024 20:37

Hmm, sadly his suggestion lacks imagination he's already met you for a first date so should have some ideas of what would appeal to you. Nothing wrong with a park/walk/coffee etc but which park for starters ? Men should ALWAYS consider that women will be more safety conscious and should at least be proposing somewhere that she would feel at ease. Personally I would put it back to him about what he is proposing and this will give some indicators if he has thought the basic aforementioned point first. Again, what if it's pissing down or does during the meet up ? It does feel a bit ill thought through/low effort. So much as I love parks/the outdoors I would proceed with caution....

hangingonfordearlife1 · 08/07/2024 20:23

first off you haven't had any successful relationships as you are currently single.
It may be something nice that you will enjoy if you just give it a go. It could be the start of an actual successful relationship

littlebumblebee1 · 08/07/2024 20:33

I would be open minded and give him the chance. It will give you some insight more than anything.

QuizNight · 09/07/2024 12:06

PeloMom · 01/07/2024 18:20

While I love parks and walks I wouldn’t be impressed if a guy suggested that for a second date. He’s supposed to be trying to impress me, not be a lazy thoughtless bum already.

Edited

Is he? I thought it was just to get to know each other.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page