Working mums (of more than 1) are selfish

[Drearymee]

Is a line a heard today at a birthday party for my eldest (5). Most of the mums don’t work or work part time and were waxing lyrically how selfish it is for mums of more than 1 to be working FT. Lines such as ‘you only get the time once’ ‘you miss so much’ ‘ a career can wait’ ‘mums like that are a bit selfish, especially with more than one’

i pointed out I work FT out of necessity, but it’s probably more priorities (we have relatively high expenses). Mums got a bit sheepish then.

is this a commonly held belief; I honestly felt so judged.

i can’t work out if it was actual pure judgement for working mums or maybe justifying a choice/ decision not to work professionally speaking?

i don’t know I’d never go around judging a mum for not working or going part time. You do you. Is this a commonly held belief?

deep down do you think it’s selfish of mums of young kids to work, esp when you don’t ’have to’?

They’ll be laughing on the other side of their face if/when their husband fucks off paying minimal maintenance and they are on min wage/benefits

Its not my business what other women do, it's not my place to judge. It's none of our place to judge. Never was.

My kids couldn't care less about my job in the sense that as long as they're happy and we have a happy home (& they know I'm happy) it's all great for them. They never thought less or more of me when I was at home than now when I work. Why would they? I'm still me. Neither is a better role model scenario, kids are doing as well consistently throughout both scenarios.

Women are the worst for judging and making other people's choices their business. We shouldn't do it.

They are so full of shit!! I worked FT as a mum of 3, and now I have sufficient pension built up to enable me to retire PT (if the asshole managers allow it!)

I would never judge any mum for working FT - you are accruing pension and if your 'D'H leaves you, you still have an income. Us working mums still deserve to have a career!!