When do you expect your children to move out?

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I am retiring soon and feel very tired and I'm looking forward to my retirement.
I have 2 early 20s and I quite like my privacy, I'm looking forward to slowing down but wonder when I will eventually have an empty house.
What's a reasonable age to expect them to fly the nest?
Is it just a case of let them stay as long as they like or do parents have an age they feel they've done their part?

Well mine are both under 10 so probably at least 40 if house prices continue to rise as they are! The median of my friends was anywhere between 18 and 25, some still live at home as they are single. If they are comfortable renting then earlier the better for both or your sake!

Two of mine were away and came back! Eldest 27 and saving for a house deposit, youngest 20 and at uni. Middle one is now abroad studying. Probably not what you wanted to hear! I (mostly!) don't mind and there will always be a home here for them if they need it.

Mine never really came back permanently after uni. There were a few years where they lived in house shares or away with work, coming back in between but By 24 they had removed every last thing to their own homes.

Personally I don't mind. My job is looking after other people's children in my home so I would feel a bit weird having a problem with my own being there.

Well what do they do are they working can they afford to move out ? Mine naturally moved out at around 23/24 1 on their own 1 with a boyfriend.

Mine are 16 and 19. I don’t see either of them moving out any time soon going by the house prices in our area. I’m expecting mid to late 20’s.

I was 26 when moved out from my parents house.

My daughter is doing very well but my son seems to be stuck in a rut, he doesn't earn a lot and he's got no aspirations.
I do think he'd happily stay at home forever giving me a contribution given the chance.

mine are 25 and 27. No chance they can afford to move out in the forseeable future. I could make them. They could get a room in a house share. But there is no way forward from that position, ever. Rent would cost them everything. far better for them to stay and save until they can buy

I left home at 19. Dh left home at 27.

Dd went to uni and although there was a room for her, when she came back she quickly moved in with her fiancé when she finished, she was 22. They both moved in earlier this year when they had been given notice from their flat but were in the process of buying a flat.

Ds is 21 and he can stay as long as he wants.

I'm 20 years from dreaming of retirement.

Mine are about the same age and I think it could be years.

Ive had enough though, they’re both boys and I feel like the household skivvy. They will help out with lots of persuasion but I am totally taken for granted. I’ve been a single parent for 15 years and I’ve really had enough, I’m so tired of it

Whenever he wants, as long as he's contributing to household bills. Honestly as a single person it would be useful to have someone else contributing financially. I rent so I'll always have to pay rent.

Never, how can they?
We are very overcrowded now as I have a younger child now 3 with a view to the older ones leaving home so now we've got a 20 something in what should have been the youngest child's room now and two teens girls sharing and the youngest child in with us still all in 3 a bed house.
We expected the younger one to have the older ones room when he left but nope.
I can't ask him to move out with nowhere to go because his room was meant to be for someone else by now.

My 14yo, I don't think I ever expect to leave home, although I do hope we'll eventually find him supported housing, he's ND with other LD and extremely vulnerable.

The 10yo is also ND but doesn't have learning disabilities and he can't wait until he's 18 and can have his own home.

Older children left home between 18 and 22 years old.
I was living on my own with a baby at 18, married at 21.

I don't know! Mine are teens and we're in the SE so I doubt they'll move out quickly, due to cost. We'll see, I guess! But I'm fully expecting them to live with us until some point between probably leaving uni and late 20s.

Why as a nation are we so desperate for our kids to move out asap?
My dd can stay as long as she wants it’s her home as much as mine.
I find the attitude of some British parents quite cold tbh.

I wonder how many people would've have had their children if they'd known they might never be able to leave home?

Do you "look after them" are you still running around after them op or are they independent and help out ?

If they ever get married. Otherwise, they can stay as long as they want (and as long as they don't take the piss with the rules etc).

You're doing these men no favours by skivvying after them. Who's going to want to date them?
Don't do anything for them, housing them is already a huge ask, they should be fully functional, providing and cooking their own food, doing all chores like any normal adult, and paying towards bills.

Hard to predict. I left home to go to uni at 17 and rarely came home after that between travelling and flat-shares. I'd love to think my DC (7 and 9) will be able to do something similar but it feels unlikely. We live in a 'uni city' so it makes sense for them to live at home and save money when they get to uni age but I'd have hated that! I'm hoping at least one of them do to save us money though! Any potential deposits will need to come from my parents inheritance so that, sadly, might be what gets them there.

My MIL has still got a 41 and 43 year old at home 😱

Because we want them to fly and grow into functioning adults rather than stay permateenagers forever, just so our lives still have a purpose? I think that wanting them at home forever is quite selfish.

My 2 sons went 6 months after they started full time jobs, after a gap year after university.

Agree.

That does not mean forever though, they need a job and enough for a house deposit but that could be late 20s for most

By 25 I think. I was 24 and that was back when moving out was easier financially. But we were all perfectly happy with the arrangement which makes a difference I think.