Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

Your DS might be generally okay, but on this occasion he was a dick.
And I am saying that as someone who spent much of the 80s and 90s in various states of disrepair.

Or maybe she knew that they wouldn't fancy clearing up your son's sick, either.

He sounds like a complete waste of time, I don't blame her for getting pissed off.

Erm, that's not what anyone signs up for, bravo to the girlfriend! 👏🏻

", I guess I feel like if it were my husband I'd look after him as that's what I signed up for."

He's not her husband. They have no commitment to each other.

Time your son grew up. His gf was quite restrained under the circumstances. I wouldnt have let him in at all

Somehow I think if it was her DH she would scurry out to get him back inside and fawn over him. Oh poor baby you drank too much, there there etc etc

I want to give this woman a round of applause!!!

I've been with DH 25 years since we were early 20s I've looked after him many times but he has never gone and got so twatted he needed looking after when drunk. Nor have I and we both love a drink. DS needs to apologise.

Well, she hasn't signed up for this. They aren't married, nor do they live together.

He went and disturbed her in the very early morning, uninvited. Made an arse of himself. Presumably didn't clean up after himself.

He has behaved like a selfish, drunk arsehole. She has done as much as she can given she is working today.

What would you rather - her leave him on his own, abandon him to his flatmates (who presumably also have work) or take him somewhere where there's a good chance he'll be actually looked after?

No, she is not unreasonable. He, on the other hand, was very unreasonable.

Marrying someone does not sign you up to clearing up their self induced vomit and accepting their shitty behaviour

I hope she dumps him and well done to her for having those boundaries.

Why? She could have just put him in a taxi on his own. She went with him so why shouldn't he pay for her taxi back home? She also bought him food that he didn't eat

Good on her.
DS needs to grow the fuck up. Hes 26 not 16.

This has to be a reverse right?

Your son showed up to her house at 2am when she has work in the morning and an early exercise class. He demanded food and then was sick everywhere. He was angry with her for giving the food away. She didn't want him at hers alone so escorted him to yours where he would be safe.

...but yes, she's being unreasonable? Unbelievable 😂

But this girl hasn't "signed up" for anything!

I never agreed to "for better, for worse and when shit-faced" either to be fair!

What a catch he is!

You know what, good on her!
She has a trust fund and works to me that’s good! She likes to work out and probably does it for a hobby- that’s her life.
It isn’t her job to look after your son. He was in a right state that she couldn’t leave him alone so she did what she could by dropping him at yours. Not ideal as he’s an adult but what else was she to do?

Id be raging if my partner was sick all over himself and my bedding and wasn’t able to clean up after himself.

Don’t know why you’re angry with her, she’s not being dramatic. He can go and celebrate but maybe needs to know his limits!

Also she isn’t married to him so hasn’t signed up to anything. If my dh did that then I’d be angry too, doesn’t matter if I’m married to him.

I have two sons and I'd be telling them in no uncertain terms that their behaviour was unacceptable. He doesn't live there, kept her up late on a work night, puked everywhere and was generally an inconsiderate prat.

Good on her for shipping him out, a classic case of you reap what you sow.

High five your sons GF!

Well done to the GF you and your DS need to have a word with yourselves.

Well that’s kind of the point , she’s not his wife ! Although I’m pretty sure in sickness and in health doesn’t include when he’s behaving like a twat and vomiting over her bed , and shouting at her, not for me anyway .Thats not what I signed up for .

Now imagine she is your daughter and he is the boyfriend!

You are most likely right there! 🙈

You creating a thread to defend your twenty odd year old son is excessive. The girlfriend’s actions were reasonable. If your immature son can’t behave his age maybe it time he came back to his mum’s.