Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

Eek. Very handmaiden of you.

Because she wants to.
That's why she does it.
Presumably she isn't making you attend as well.

I guess I feel like if it were my husband I'd look after him as that's what I signed up for.

Lordy Lord that made me laugh 😂😂

Your son behaved appallingly and treated his gf like dirt.

Who raised him to behave like that. Oh right YOU!

You're blind to his behaviour so no wonder he thinks it's acceptable.

So does he live with you or her? If he lives with you then fair enough, she dropped him home.

Well done her 👏

Your fucking with us now OP

This must be a reverse...

Good for her. She sounds like a keeper.

Congratulations to him for his exam result, maybe he can start acting like a grown up now.

He does not live with her, she has returned him to the depot.
Well done to her.

Jesus, he's 26... needs to grow up.

Great to know that there are young women around who have clearly boundaries and expectations of behaviour.

I guess I feel like if it were my husband I'd look after him as that's what I signed up for

Oh. Does your husband do this as well?

This post is a very "one sided" view of your son, I have no idea how he behaves in general nor his character when sober but had I been in the GF shoes I would have probably done the same, HE sounds like a nightmare, but again...maybe he's a great guy when sober, who knows.

If it had have been me he wouldn't darken the door again. Honestly it is completely unacceptable behaviour.

I kinda want to be her when I grow up and I'm 46.

Also she signed up by marrying him.

This young woman isn't married to him. She signed up to nothing.

You're the girlfriend, right?

If this is real, no she's not unreasonable or dramatic.

Why is it her responsibility to look after a drunken man child? He went out (fair enough)went to hers hours after he'd said he'd be there, woke her up when she has work in the morning, made her order food, shouted because he was too pissed to eat it, vomited in her bed and she's unreasonable one for dropping this man child back with mummy?!

Irrelevant that she has a trust fund, why should she pay taxi's and be out of pocket for his behaviour.

Unbelievable.

Your son has behaved like a dickhead and needs to apologise. Have you seen the numerous threads on the relationships board full of the wives of men still doing this into their thirties and forties? Would you accept your DH waking you drunk at 2am? What a low bar you have if you think this is acceptable behaviour at 26!

He was a prick. She was quite right not to put up with it, but I disagree that she involved his mother. At that age, she should kick him out on his arse and let him sort his own shit. If that's a park bench for the night, so be it. He should be grovelling right now.

Blimey I bet if your son was ever a bully, it couldn't ever possibly be his fault and the victim was provoking your darling DS.
Newsflash OP, the sun doesn't revolve around your son.

Team GF here including paying for the taxi with his card. Its not a question of who can afford it its about consequences of his actions.

She sounds brilliant to be honest.
Props to her for still working even with a trust fund. She seems like she's set boundaries for herself and sticks to them. Hopefully her good behaviour rubs off on your son.