Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

Good for her. Why should she put up with his drunken shit.

Well done her for having boundaries. And shame on you for bringing up an entitled man child!

I would be pissed off if I was the girlfriend. Getting drunk is one thing, getting so smashed you puke all over the place and turn into a moaning cunt is quite another.

He sounds a right twat. She doesn’t need to mother her boyfriend. Good on her, I say.

Coming here and bitching about her perfectly rational behaviour is excessive. Your son's behaviour must be a red line for her so it's for them to work out between themselves, but idk what you were expecting here.

He showed up at her house in the middle of the night so drunk that he got sick. He isn’t a 19 yo that doesn’t understand alcohol.

good for her for standing up for herself.

if he doesn’t apologize profusely, starting with cleaning her home, she should break up with him.

@Chrisia This can’t be real - not even the most deluded parent could have possibly taken the view typed up here.

Seriously, OP? If you think this is in any way normal behaviour at someone else’s house, then did you bring him up to think that it’s normal to wake someone coming in roaring drunk at 2 am when they’ve told him to stay away because they need to get up for work, then puking all over yourself and someone else’s house? She wasn’t in the least ‘dramatic’, she was getting an aggressive lurking drunk out of her house.

And if she had to get up for work, I’m not seeing the ‘living off a trust fund’.

If he'd eaten it he would have thrown it up, he threw up again at yours so be thankful. I understand he was celebrating, why didn't she go with him and possibly stop him getting so out of it? Or was she not invited? I always find it strange these days that GFs/BFs/Partners do not seem to be invited to important events for their other half. In my day we would have gone to enjoy the moment with them.

FFS she told him not to go to her place.

She's probably seen him drunk like this before and didn't want to deal with it.

I really don’t mean to be rude. I want you to turn this on its head. If a man treated your daughter like that I am sure you wouldn’t be impressed. I would be giving my son such a telling off for this behaviour. The thought of someone being sick in my house, keeping me up on a work night and going on like a prat would be the biggest turn off. She is not being dramatic at all. I am so shocked that anyone would think this is ok🥲

She isn't his mother.
She is his partner.

She shouldn't have to clean up his sick, get woken up and food demanded. Absolute prick.

He acted like an idiot I hope he apologises, if it was my daughter though I'd tell her to finish it.

OP, if you have a mirror close by, you will see who has created this messy man-child.

He has behaved appallingly and should feel ashamed of himself, not annoyed at his GF’s behaviour.

In the future, I’d Iove my children to be assertive enough to boot out similarly behaved boyfriends/girlfriends!

Team GF here I’m afraid.

(Except possibly the bit where she took his bank card without his permission and then - presumably - used it fraudulently in the taxi home.)

I mean there's so much I don't understand about this but what I don't understand the most is...

A) If he has his own place, why did he insist on going to hers at 2am, pissed off his face?

B) Why did she drop him at your house when he has his own place?

Guessing this is CFA exams?

GF did nothing wrong. If son wants to turn up and vomit at 2am he should do it in his own home, not somebody else’s.

Sorry didn't mean to quote the above poster.

Op your DS behaved like an arsehole and your defence of him shows us where he learned it from.

They were meant to be going out tonight to celebrate but she has cancelled until he feels better

And suddenly its clear who raised him to behave so appallingly...

You brought him up to think this is an acceptable way for a grown man to behave, you deal with it. Why should she clean up after him?

Well I think we can all see why your adult son behaves like a teenager. It's genetic. The only person being silly and dramatic is you, OP.

The GF is the only person who has behaved like a grown up with decent boundaries. Stop enabling your dickhead son. I'd have been mortified if anyone had every had to return one of my boys to me like this.

Sorry I know it’s not relevant but if you had a trust fund (and presume lives a life of leisure), why, just why, in name of all that is holy would you book an exercise class at that ungodly time in the middle of the night??? She may have rock solid boundaries but her day schedule is bonkers.

You mean she's cancelled until he apologises.

Where does he usually live? If it's at yours then of course he should go home..what grown man is sick all over themselves and the bedding and doesn't even clean it up. He was acting like a stupid teenager.
You be sick in a bucket or a toilet, no matter how drunk. He needs to grow up. Don't be blaming it on her.

If she didn’t care about him, she would have put him on the pavement. Just to be clear, she would have been perfectly entitled to put him on the pavemrnt. She has no responsibility to someone that drunk. She went above and beyond by delivering him somewhere safe.

Because she didn’t read the ‘girlfriend responsibility job description’ that requires her meekly following her idiot boyfriend around with his colleagues because he can’t hold his drink, or distinguish between ‘not a late one’ and ‘coming home puking at 2 am’? His fuck up is not her problem.

And I imagine she’ll be washing her hands of him for good anyway.