Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

Good for her. More people should have strong boundaries.

I mean this never really happened but if it did GF is an absolute queen.

She's an absolute legend, I hope my daughters grow up like her.

He should pay for cleaners to get her place looking (and smelling) decent. He acted like an absolute prat and it would put me right off him. I wouldnt be surprised if she dumps him soon

Presumably she dropped him at yours as it’s safer to have people around when being sick, in case he chokes. It’s actually very thoughtful.

well done that girl !

Bravo that girl!! (Apart from the bank card bit - don’t like that).

I'm sorry but what?

Firstly, you do not need to invite your partner out for every night out.

Secondly it's not anyone's job to chaperone their partner ffs.

Yes, he was studying non-stop for months and I've been told they are some of the hardest exams you can do.
I can see from the replies here that most think AIBU, I guess I feel like if it were my husband I'd look after him as that's what I signed up for.

Why should she have to 'stop' him? Why is that her job? Did he lose all agency because he passed some exams?

Good for her. She shouldn't put up with that. I'm sure you would be singing a different tune if he came home to you and got sick in bed etc. He's pretty selfish going back there in the first place knowing she had work in the morning etc.

He's upset with her?!...bit of gaslighting there!

Yeah another one for team GF. He’s 26, not 13 and she told him not to go to hers. Even if he didn’t get the message why would he decide to wake her up and think ordering food to her house at 2am would be a great idea?

And what has her having a trust fund got to do with the price of fish?
She was hopping mad and I think she wanted him to pay for her taxi.
After all, she'd been awake all night looking after a tedious drunk, being sick everywhere.

If this isn't a reverse...

Just to add, it’s not normal for the mother of a 26 year old to have to deal with his inability to judge his alcohol intake, either. This is why adult children should live independently, so they have to mop up their own puke from their own floor and/or get evicted from their house shares when their housemates get sick of stepping over them puke-spattered on the stairs.

She has a trust fund but still works a 9-5 (low paying role in the creative world) and she works out every day around it - no idea why!! She does a workout every morning except sunday!

She also works, so I imagine the "living off a trust fund" line is OP stretching things for effect.

Wow! Well done her 🤩
Someone’s taught her how to set boundaries!
As for your son, well, maybe he’ll grow up one day. 26 is a little old to be acting like a teenager with no self regulation. Lessons will be learned and all that crap. Lessons will be learnt quicker if you don’t pander to him and allow him to think his actions were acceptable.

LOL

GF was totally right, completely self inflicted on his part.

If the GF has any sense, she'll throw this little man baby and his enabling mummy right back in the sea...

I can see from the replies here that most think AIBU, I guess I feel like if it were my husband I'd look after him as that's what I signed up for

But this is your son's girlfriend. They're not married.
Nor will they ever be, if this is how he behaves.

But it's not her husband. They are not living together.

He needs to grow up.

You need to encourage him to grow up.

If a girlfriend done this to my son, id be glad she had the sense to bring him home rather than leave him at home, and id be so annoyed with him that he'd got in such a mess. You can have a good time without getting hammered.

They aren't married though.
They don't even live together.
She told him not to come.
He came in drunk, woke her up and vomited everywhere.

How long have they been together?

A flat share, apparently she didn't take him there as she didn't want his housemates to end up responsible for him