Dramatic response from sons GF

[Chrisia]

DS is 26, we live pretty close to him. This week he got the results or an exam he had sat for work, it is notoriously hard and he passed. Last night after work he went out with his colleagues to celebrate. Apparently he told his GF (doesn't live with her) that it wouldn't be a late one. The rest is what I've been told, but according to her she messaged him at midnight and told him to go home as she has work in the morning. He claims he didn't get this so went back to hers at 2am, waking her up. He then asked her to order food for him, she did but he was sick before it arrived so she told the delivery driver to eat it instead, he then apparently shouted at her for doing this.
Apparently he was sick on himself so she had to force him to shower.
This morning I got a call at 5.45am, from his GF, telling me she was bringing him to ours in a Taxi as "If he wanted to act like a teen he could come stay at home" and she had a workout class to go to. I asked why he couldn't just stay at hers and sleep it off while she was at work and she told me he had already been sick on the bedding, was being moany and she didn't want to leave him home alone.
DS came in, he was clearly in a state, so I got him to bed, he has been sick but not too bad. Also before she left she took his bank card out his pocket and said to me she would be using it for her taxi back (this girl has a trustfund and lives off her dad so this seems unfair!)
Now AIBU to think this a very dramatic response, no need to give the food away as he did want to eat it and she is meant to love him, could she really not have just let him sleep it off? DS is quite upset with her and I think he is right to be!

Oh wow, I'm in awe of the girlfriend. Instead, I enabled the guy, cleaned up after him, married him, and then was surprised when he was a shit father who expected me to do everything. She's an absolute star and she may have taught him one of the most valuable lessons of his life.

Good for that girl. If she were on here I’d be telling her to run a mile. From your son and from you.

If you think you need to take care of your extremely drunk husband, then you need to reevaluate your relationship. He is old enough to have a 26 year old son. Your husband is old enough to not get extremely drunk.

certainly care for him if he is sick from an actual illness but if he is getting seriously drunk, you should be wondering why you are still married

My ex husband did this once.

Just the once. It was one of the many reasons I kicked him out.

Exactly - if my DH was vomiting from illness or chemo or something not caused by him I’d be 100% sympathetic and look after him! I’m sure this girl would be kind and caring too. A drunken idiot can feck off back to Mummy I’m afraid!

Fair play to her. She’s making it crystal clear what her boundaries are and that no man will be taking advantage of her good nature with shitty behaviour.

Your son was a total dick and the fact he does not see or understand that is down to you for enabling him. His gf is ace. Working because she wants and why shouldn’t she go to the gym as many times as she wants, whenever she wants? There is no excuse for his behaviour and good on her for having boundaries and not putting up with it. He needs to massively apologise to her.

wastingtimeonhere · Today 17:38
He was a prick. She was quite right not to put up with it, but I disagree that she involved his mother. At that age, she should kick him out on his arse and let him sort his own shit. If that's a park bench for the night, so be it. He should be grovelling right now.

She was being kinder and more sensible than he deserved, even men are vulnerable when drunk.
I hope she does not have him back, even if he grovels!

Your son’s GF is a class act…..I wish more young women were like this. Hat’s off to her. You might mother your son, but she sure as hell shouldn’t!

She did the right thing to be fair, he could have choked on his vomit in his sleep.

But even without that, she shouldn't have to clean him up and look after him when he's allowed himself to get into such a terrible state, the bare minimum is what he deserves and that's what he got.

Whether or not this is a reverse I think the girlfriend's response was superb. With those excellent boundaries she definitely won't be one of the mumsnetters starting threads every weekend about drunken partners going AWOL or pissing in wardrobes.

Nice work ethic too, 9-5 job despite having a trust fund. Good for her!

If he's thrown up several times, he's drank a lot more than a bit too much. Well done to her for having boundaries and not been walked all over.

I agree with this. His GF was looking out for him bringing him to you to be cared for and not left alone. Meanwhile she needed to work all day after having no sleep cleaning up sick all night.

You should be thanking her for saving his ass.

She sounds like a great girl with her head screwed on to be honest .

All of this. Thank god more and more women are waking up and refusing to baby grown men. He needs to understand that his actions have consequences.

And why should she be out of pocket, trust fund or no trust fund?

I'm betting she brought him to yours as she's well aware that you will take care of your ikkle baby.

Good for her. She is not unreasonable your son was. And that you think she is shows why he thinks it's ok to treat his partner this way

Well, it’s not her husband….It’s her wanky boyfriend who clearly cant handle his drink.

I never understand how a grown adult can drink themselves in to that kind of state.

How can you not see this is either a troll or a reverse? Nobody would think this sort of behaviour is ok!

The girls got standards. I applaud her.

I don't think anyone's signed up for drunken vomiting!

😁 You've got to be kidding, right?

Your son won't pull that one again that's for sure.

THe only thing she did wrong was take and use his debit card.

Imagine she'll dump him. Would serve him right.

And you're downplaying his behaviour and state.

They don’t even live together - what has she signed up to exactly?

Good for her for not tolerating that. Why should she?

I'm glad OP your son passed his exam. But I don't care how hard he worked it doesn't excuse his behaviour. Why does celebrating passing an exam = going out and getting off your face drunk and behaving like an animal?
You seem to think cleaning up after men is just another job for women. No wonder your DS thinks he has carte blanche to behave like a slob and expect his girlfriend to just deal with it.
I'm another one who is glad she stood up for herself.