To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

[grengat]

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

This!!

I mean, I understand that MN is anonymous but this kind of post leaves me speechless. So what if your neighbour is annoying you with her continuous praise of her dc. Surely, you can just learn to ignore her and not extend your jealousy to her dc.

I also fail to see how attending state school puts their child at a level footing with your dc. If the child is smart, they will still succeed just as yours will. If they are not academic, they will still succeed via a non-academic route, if support is provided. No jealousy required.

I wouldn’t care what school they went to but would be pleased the gloating is over. I know people like this -,either ignore them or come back at them with things your children are doing.

This says more about you than it says about your neighbour.
You're a cow...and I've not said that for a while.

I thought this. It does tap into the idea that the whole point of the VAT policy is to turn the anger for failing services onto private school kids: your child's education won't improve but at least you can enjoy the distress of the child next door.

You need to go outside and touch some grass.
your a clown, like this is some clown type shit... best of luck to your kid

Honestly. The amount of ugly, ugly jealousy I've seen on MN since the announcement of the possible tax hike on private school fees has just been so horrible

To be fair a lot has come from parents who are now priced out. Jealousy re the elites who can still afford, of those in expensive catchment areas of great state options, kids in grammars. And plenty of glee that some other kids will now be priced out of those catchments or won’t get the grammar place because their own dc will now take those places. And I say this has someone who may use private education.

You are a mean person. Get a life.

Ya think?! 🤣

Oh dear OP. Go get some help.

@grengat YABVU.

Mean!

Everyone has bills to pay. They usually don’t have spare money at the end of it for private school.

Plenty of people also work hard and still can’t afford private school.

She sounds annoying, but you don't sound very nice, either. If she was so awful, the thing to do was limit contact with her or say something to make it clear that you didn't appreciate her gloating.

The truth is that there is no such thing as an equal start or a completely level playing field in life, so... 💁You'd be better off focusing your energies on improving your children's lives and trying to cut down on the spite.

What’s the purpose for this post? Trying to let your neighbours see? Trying to share your joy? Trying to be told it’s ok to be happy?

Oh I'm sure they could manage it if they gave up netflix and avocados 😉

You never meet a hater who’s a step ahead of you.

Keep on hating x

How unkind! The poor son hasn't done anything wrong, he is probably suffering a lot atm and will do for a while, imagine removing your child from a school they enjoy?!

I can understand being pleased the bragging parents will now pipe down, but sad for the child.

Or Sky TV like poor Rishi. 😂

You are a jealous, nasty piece of work.

Like someone else posted up thread, blowing someone else’s candles won’t make yours shine any brighter.

Her child is more likely to do better in life regardless of her financial situation because research shows that the higher expectations you have for your children the better they achieved in life.
Focus on your own children and stop feasting on people’s miseries.

A) drum up sympathy for private school pupils who may need to move school.

B) make state school parents look bad.

You sound really awful - what kind of person takes pleasure in what must be a deeply upsetting development for a child? I wouldn’t want to know you IRL.

The parents of that child are the ones to take responsibility

Be better than this.

OP, hopefully her son gets a random head injury and then you'll really have the upper hand!
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