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Overheard convo - tell friend?

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camiclairi · 25/06/2024 09:31

Yesterday I went for drinks with some friends after work, couple of us brought our partners.
One of my friends is in a relatively new relationship, I haven't got a great feeling about him but she seems happy.

At one point in the evening my friend went to the bathroom, I then overheard her boyfriend talking to a stranger.
The stranger asked what his girlfriend did and he replied (she's work in events and marketing for a large very well known museum) saying what she does and followed it with "so not very bright but looks good on my arm" the stranger asked if she went to uni and he said "yeah but one of those pointless degrees that need banning" (English Lit & Classics at St Andrews ..... hardly Mickey Mouse stuff!), she also has a masters from Kings College! He then went into talking about his finance and economics degree.
She came back before anything else was said and the convo moved on.
However it's sat weird with me that he would talk about her this way. I think my friend is a genuinely intelligent, and extremely knowledgeable person, probably more so than many many people working in the city (I say as one of those people). I feel she deserves someone who is proud of her achievements and doesn't aim to diminish them. She is from an Uber wealthy background so I guess felt no need to do a job or degree she doesn't love!
I'm now thinking I should tell her I overheard this but other friends think I should keep out and she will realise sooner or later - or maybe she already knows and is fine with it.

AIBU wanting to tell friend?

OP posts:
TealPoet · 28/06/2024 05:53

Absolutely tell her! What a vile attitude he’s shown :(

AmIEnough · 28/06/2024 07:32

I’m afraid I would have to tell her

Goodtogossip · 10/07/2024 15:27

I'd want to know if my BF was bad mouthing me or putting me down. Could you make it a jokey conversation with her with her BF present saying you overheard what he was saying & that you think he sounds a wee bit jealous but you agree she does look good on his arm as she's a stunner & he's punching.

StormingNorman · 10/07/2024 15:33

I’d want to know. I would be so embarrassed if my partner was talking about me this way. Particularly when it starts to get followed up with the “god he’s awful why does she put up with him” comments.

She needs to know so she can address it or walk away, and neither of those conversations get easier the longer they are together.

Fiddlerdragon · 13/07/2024 12:50

Any updates op?

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