Overheard convo - tell friend?

[camiclairi]

Yesterday I went for drinks with some friends after work, couple of us brought our partners.
One of my friends is in a relatively new relationship, I haven't got a great feeling about him but she seems happy.

At one point in the evening my friend went to the bathroom, I then overheard her boyfriend talking to a stranger.
The stranger asked what his girlfriend did and he replied (she's work in events and marketing for a large very well known museum) saying what she does and followed it with "so not very bright but looks good on my arm" the stranger asked if she went to uni and he said "yeah but one of those pointless degrees that need banning" (English Lit & Classics at St Andrews ..... hardly Mickey Mouse stuff!), she also has a masters from Kings College! He then went into talking about his finance and economics degree.
She came back before anything else was said and the convo moved on.
However it's sat weird with me that he would talk about her this way. I think my friend is a genuinely intelligent, and extremely knowledgeable person, probably more so than many many people working in the city (I say as one of those people). I feel she deserves someone who is proud of her achievements and doesn't aim to diminish them. She is from an Uber wealthy background so I guess felt no need to do a job or degree she doesn't love!
I'm now thinking I should tell her I overheard this but other friends think I should keep out and she will realise sooner or later - or maybe she already knows and is fine with it.

AIBU wanting to tell friend?

Oh hang on, have a got my wires crossed and the strangers a man? Now I’m even more confused why he’d go round slagging his girlfriend off?

You would want to know if it was you wouldn’t you? I’d tell her. He’s vile. Poor woman she deserves better

Tell her. Immediately. Don’t let her waste any more time on this arsehole.

You’d be a bad friend to keep quiet. A really bad friend.

God don’t do this, it would be so humiliating for her!

I’d tell her. I’d say ‘I’ve not been sure how to tell you this, because it’s shit and I don’t want to be the messenger shot. But I heard X talking to some guy when we were out about you, putting down your qualifications and saying you’re ‘arm candy’. It’s not my business but I thought you deserved to know, he seems like an utterly jealous twat to be talking such bollocks.’

I’d tell her, I’m afraid.

Friend had been sat between me and her boyfriend so other than the empty seat there was nothing between us, I wasn't part of the conversation, I was scrolling on my phone waiting for friend to come back, so heard it all.
I paraphrased aspects but the main just was there - be an utterly odd thing to make up!

Of course you tell her. MN is weird about not telling people when they know about affairs etc. If he’s talking like this early on to strangers, he’s not nice. Tell your friend otherwise it’ll always be an issue and she might pick up on you acting strange, and if he does something worse in the future and you tell her then she’ll always want to know why you didn’t tell her sooner

I’d definitely tell her. What a tool.

Tell her, in person.

Don't speak to him first. It wasn't a confession, there's nothing he needs to tell her before you do.

He's entitled to his (shitty) opinion. It just makes him an unsuitable partner for your accomplished and clever friend because he doesn't respect her achievements or field.

Make sure she knows you're taking no pleasure in telling her, and didn't have a particularly strong opinion of her partner beforehand, you just wanted her to know what you'd heard.

Tell her.
He’s an a###hole.

God, tell her. He sounds like a massive cunt. It's early days so let her know before she gets in any deeper.

I would want to know. I would be really upset with a friend if I found out they had heard that and not told me.

I would definitely tell her if you care about her.

I would tell her because I would definitely want her to tell me.

No YANBU. Tell her. If it was me I would want to know and would feel a fool if I found out later.

Your post is MASSIVELY identifiable unless you've made up the details.

I'd want to be told.

I wouldn't say anything to him - what do you expect him to do ?

I would tell her you overheard her boyfriend talking to a stranger about you and it wasn't complimentary.

I would introduce her to someone better suited.

I wonder what your friend sees in the creep?

If she is bright, she will work him out, as he will slip up! Maybe she is just using him for his body lol. Just wait for a chance to throw something into the conversation about education and ask him his views on mickey mouse degrees and see what happens.

people going for a drink after work, when at least one work in the city?
Of course everyone knows exactly who the OP is talking about

😂

I agree with @Catandsquirrel. Tell her what you heard in a straightforward way making it clear you’re uncomfortable with the whole thing but with no hint about your wider doubts about him. You may be unpopular at least temporarily but she needs to know he doesn’t respect her and/or is immature enough to show off to another person, especially as this is a fairly new relationship.

TBH, I thought the same thing. There's only so many large very well known museum and also, putting in her degree and where she studied? And the Masters at King's College?

I'd tell her. Poor woman. He obviously has no respect for her.

I want to say tell her but at the same time I don’t honestly know what I’d do when the chips were down. Would she thank you for telling her.
At least he said she looks good on my arm. He could have said She’s an ugly cunt. I’m just with her till something better comes a long.