How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

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You'd booked the flights and accommodation in advance. He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country. Has savings of several thousand but couldn't even dip into them for say £100.

Obviously dipping into savings is unwise, but knowingly going abroad with 0 spending money is unfair to the other person no?

If he has a credit card he can access cash through atms. If no cash machines there are money exchange centres in all airports so send him back there. Afraid he is feeding you a line. Total BS . What a horrible thing to deal with on your holiday.

Where are you and what credit card doesn't work? It's either a very obscure country, where you must have known in advance you needed cash or a weird credit card.

I'd be noting down the spending and asking for half back when you get home, although don't be surprised if you don't get it.

If this happened to me, I'd move to another hotel on my own and spend my money that way instead of bankrolling a freeloading chancer.

So he has a saver account. Fine. Where do his wages go? He needs to access money, himself, as an adult, or go without. Seriously fucking fuck him.

Aside from the sponging and ssumption that you'd pay, I'd be dumping him for being so incompetent. How will he care for me if I'm ill or old? A child? He can't (be bothered to learn).

So how is he planning to eat, because I wouldn’t be funding him. Explain you have enough for your own needs and he will need to sort something out - I’m sure he’ll miraculously find a way to pay.

Can't understand how it got this far. Didn't you just talk generally beforehand about how much money to take and have a back up plan.

He needs to ring the bank for a transfer

How long have you been together? Do you live together?

What was the agreement? Did he assume you were inviting him? do you agree to split costs? Or you just went and booked everything hoping he will contribute some,

He seems like a sponger.

Sounds like BS to me. Do your credit cards work? Then why doesn't his? And whoever heard of a savings account you can't access, and doesn't he have a regular checking account? No debit card or Apple Pay?

He is a liar. Dont be fooled. Let him know youll expect half the spending money back when you return and then end it. There is no happy future with this man.

Even my kids go henry and rooster work abroad.

When was this? It used to be the case it was advisable to tell your bank you would be using credit and debit cards abroad in case this happened (and it was "in case" - not definitely)

That hasn't been the case for years now.

Well mainly I’d think he’s a liar about not having any access to money and I’d fuck off and leave him to it.

I never take cash. Just cards. Get him to transfer some to you so you can use your card

Free holiday, then dumping you, or waiting for you to dump him... either way, free holiday

So basically even though your credit card didn't work (which is unusual and you were unlucky there) you sorted it.

The op's partner is a scrounging dickhead and I'd probably leave him to it in holiday and just pay for myself to have a nice time. If he wants to eat and drink etc I'm sure he'll work out a way to access his money.

He'd be dumped and no coming back from it if he didn't sort his shit out and not ruin my holiday. It's abusive behaviour.

This. There is no way that DH would ever do this.

This bloke is either making huge assumptions because his Amex card doesn’t work in a couple of places and he’s too lazy to keep trying - or he’s a user, and he’s trying to get you to pay for it all.

Where are you that doesn’t take a credit card? We go abroad with very little cash as we use our phones/cards to pay for everything - except tips.

Are you away with my ex husband. That’s exactly the kind of stunt he’d pull and why he’s ex.

Have you seen these savings? You know for sure he has them? What I would do is say OK how much do you want to borrow?? I want every penny back when we get home.

If he says nothing then, I'd buy them the bare minimum 1 meal a day or something and 2 drinks.

Absolute bum fluff…

Have you asked him what his plans are in that case? Ask him what he's going to do for money.

Also he may have maxed out the credit card and be in financial trouble. He may not have the savings at all. I would have a full and frank conversation and give him a chance to be honest first.

You might want to get him directions to the local British Consulate, then, as he won’t last long without food and water. They should be able to arrange a flight home for him.

There is no way he can’t access his current or savings account on line and transfer money. I am sure if he contacts his bank or even his credit card company, he can arrange for money to be wired or for overseas access to be arranged. All the major bank accounts are accessible world wide if they have a visa or Mastercard logo on them. Alternatively, he will have to call a family member to arrange a land/money wire.

Not your problem. Assume the hotel is secured against your credit card too?

I would assume the savings don’t exist.