How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

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You'd booked the flights and accommodation in advance. He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country. Has savings of several thousand but couldn't even dip into them for say £100.

Obviously dipping into savings is unwise, but knowingly going abroad with 0 spending money is unfair to the other person no?

I used to go out with someone like that, I look back now and wonder why I put up with it. It was like I was supposed to provide everything. He had to go. No regrets,

Id tell him to have fun chilling at the hotel while I went out and did all the things I'd planned to do that he couldn't afford. And ask Why hasn't he paid you back for half of everything before coming? I'm old and jaded thoughm in my youth id have probably thought of no it's a shame he made a mistake

It’s an immediately dumpable offence. In fact, I’d be so pissed off that I’d make absolutely sure to leave them high and dry too! It’s not just a disgusting level of stinginess but denotes a horrible lack of respect and kindness.

How on earth is he going to eat?

Has he ever been abroad before, lack of knowledge or a deliberate attempt at a cost free holiday?

Regardless, if you do end up bank rolling him, make it crystal clear that you're saving all the receipts and that you'll expect payment the moment he lands back on home soil.

I'd tell him he needs to sort out something by ringing his bank because you only took enough spending money for yourself. He's a user.

A regular reminder, we do not know their usual financial arrangements. We do not know if it was a genuine error, we do not know where they are.
Despite the posters certain they know, none of us do.

For me it depends on the circumstances. My ex booked a holiday for us without telling me, I didn't get a say in when or where. I was struggling financially at the time and had very little money when the holiday came around a couple of months later. Then he made me feel guilty for not having any money. Dipping into savings was not an option for me. They are savings for long term purchases and not to be spent on holidays.

This is an soon to be ex partner I presume?

Not accessible online 😓
am I the only one thinking he is doing a massive one to op??

please walk away from that person. Enjoy your holiday alone and let him figure it out. The man is making you pay 🤷🏼‍♀️ coz he has money he « can’t access ».

Sounds dubious. Having said that my first major trip abroad I had a travel card and attempted to withdraw cash at an ATM in Italy for lunch. It refused so I tried again, still no luck.

i was by myself and couldn’t get any euros at the train station prior to departure (was assured by my local family there would be plenty).

I made sure I applied for an Amex before going anywhere next time. Since have a WISE card too.

Has he tried calling the credit card provider? They might have blocked his access thinking the card has been stolen and it’s a random use…

It’s 2024 - cash?! I’d be the one bringing my card only as last few trips I’ve done, the cash has come back unused, nobody wants to take it. It’s a bit strange his card doesn’t work though, I can’t think of anywhere from the top of my head where a standard UK CC would not be accepted!

Are you in Russia or North Korea? 😇

I'd think he was an idiot, but that it wasn't my problem.

are you bed and breakfast on holiday? whats is there to spend money on? Is it All inclusive or self catering? How long are you away for?

Have you offered him a loan of money?

Been there done that one…..after 25 years of being married to the selfish pig and suffering many other problems within the marriage I finally left him. If this is his only fault then ok but if there”s others into the bargain get out now. He will never change and you will be the one to suffer throughout the relationship. He won’t care, it’s all about him unfortunately.

Deal breaker

Disorganised or mean.
Or both.
Or neither. Maybe naive. Or unlucky.

An utter creep. Not a real man.

He must have a current account? His day to day spending can’t be only on his credit card. He needs to try several cash machines, my debit card rarely worked in Thailand last summer, so cash advances via my credit card was the only way. Very strange that his credit card doesn’t work at all.

Of course it doesn’t work abroad.

🤣🤣🤣

Time to ask how he was planning to pay for it all

The last few trips I've been on I've not carried any cash into the country - just a couple of credit/cash cards. The same as most of my travel companions. And if one of us finds their card won't work in a particular situation another will cover their share and we sort it out after - generally there's little to sort out as it mostly evens out across a holiday.

And I've rarely needed any cash. I think in the last two holidays I've needed cash twice - which has been easily obtained from a nearby cash point. Everything else went on my card.

That being said I have checked in advance re. use of my cards in these locations, and always have a couple of options in case one is a problem. But I could see myself coming unstuck at some point i.e. having got to the stage where I take it for granted I'll be able to use my cards and don't need to worry about cash.

Why did he only take a card? Was it reasonable that he thought he'd be able to use the card? What kind of holiday are you on? Did he think everything was already paid for and no/minimal money would be required? Does it actually reflect differences in holiday expectations i.e. you're on an AI holiday and to him that means staying in the resort the whole time and not spending any additional money? What is his plan now?

His credit card should work.
Though after having terrible experience with a credit card abroad I always carry cash..and mostly only use cash.

Keep very good records or borrowings and add interest.

I'd be questioning whether he actually has the savings.

Yes this.

I had one of those. Happy to spend my money because one day we'd use his significant savings for a house deposit.

I've dated lots of wealthy people in the past, so never questioned anyone saying they had significant assets, because it had always been true. I'd never dated a liar, so it wasn't on my radar.

This bastard, when my suspicions were raised and I asked him to show proof, used the exact same line "can't access it online" so I told him he needed to go in branch. He became so abusive in order to maintain that lie, that I have PTSD.

He's using you. The money most likely is an invention on his part and on the small chance it isn't, he's deliberately making you bank roll him.

Ooh awkward and difficult decision. All depends on your actual partnership status, I'd only ever call someone a partner if finances are joined/shared like bills, mortgage otherwise they're just a BF/GF. lovely of you to pay for the holiday just shame it's turned out like this. Which country are you in ?