How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

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You'd booked the flights and accommodation in advance. He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country. Has savings of several thousand but couldn't even dip into them for say £100.

Obviously dipping into savings is unwise, but knowingly going abroad with 0 spending money is unfair to the other person no?

Very annoying but it could be that he assumed his credit card would work.

Surely there is a bank somewhere that he can use his credit card in.

Can he not transfer money from his bank account into your account?

Some banks do put a temporary block if the card is used abroad

They do indeed, @Saschka; I've had it happen to me even in the US, and that was after informing them I'd be there, withdrawing £10 at the airport before leaving and all the other things you're supposed to do

It was sorted out eventually after much angst, but needless to say the bank couldn't give a stuff about the trouble they'd caused

I'd think I was being scammed.

Who was asking for help?

hmm 🤔 doubt the story about the credit card, but here’s a solution if true:

He can go into an actual bank tomorrow and ask them to do an over the counter transaction with his credit card. They will assist with any blocks on the card. He will need to pay cash and transaction fees obviously.

Did you pay for the holiday, then, or did he pay half?

If he deliberately came on holiday without any money, then I would tell him to go back home. Absolute cheeky fuckery.

for me it would depend on one thing. I would pay for this holiday although do it as cheap as i could. then when we got home i would ask for the money transferred that day. If i didn't have that money within 3 days of me asking/reminding him then i would be leaving the relationship as it shows no respect.

I would feel frustrated, annoyed and would be debating whether I had a sponger or a complete idiot as a partner.

although its weird to me ... who doesn't just have a debit card and do online banking? :S

How long have you guys been together?

Some banks do put a temporary block if the card is used abroad (one of DM’s Halifax visa cards, DH’s Nationwide visa card - my Nationwide card is fine, DM has other cards which work fine).

Yeah, I've had this happen, but I immediately called the bank's credit card helpline and got it sorted out. This guy seems to default to relying on the OP and she shouldn't let him. He's got to eat 3x a day and he needs to pay for it.

Some banks do put a temporary block if the card is used abroad (one of DM’s Halifax visa cards, DH’s Nationwide visa card - my Nationwide card is fine, DM has other cards which work fine).

They do, but it takes five minutes and a quick phone call to solve it.

My ex did this. Big family holiday to Florida for 2 weeks, my mum paid for everyones flight and the villa. All we needed was spending money. He only got £100 exchanged which i found out couple days before going. I ended up having to pay for everything for him and lend him money. He also then decided one day not to come with us to watch football instead (i love football too but not to watch that instead of family holiday and not even England playing). He had the villa key (only 1) On way back we called to see if he wanted food picking up, no answer, repeated calls and no response. Turns out he got hammered and was asleep back at villa. We walked in as door left unlocked and he didn’t even hear us. I was scrambling round the bedroom to find the key.
Massive argument which my mum heard him call me a bitch! The next morning he was ashamed to come put i said he had to. He apologised to my mum and stepdad and he was forced to go to the theme park extremely hung over. Amazing thing is it still took me a further 2 years to break up with the prick!

He's no money and is bullshitting you about non working credit cards and savings accounts.
Either you go with someone else or just pay for his shit?! He won't pay you back and has no respect for you. Who the fuck would go on holiday without a penny to their name?!

This was he told he was a total treat by you? No - In which case he can transfer a few hundred to you now by internet

To be fair it doesn’t even occur to me to take cash abroad anymore. I went abroad last week and just used Apple Pay or card (mountains of Italy and zero problems doing so) I did have multiple cards though obviously - going abroad with just one card is indeed bonkers. If you’re at ‘partner’ stage though then I’d assume it’s all shared anyway?

My ex did this. We went to Paris and it wasn’t until we got there that he told me he had no money. We’d had the trip booked for weeks.

On a different trip he got paid whilst we were there and spent his entire months wages in a weekend. Safe to say that relationship did not last.

I only take a credit card when I travel - much easier to replace if it gets stolen or cloned and I leave my bank card at home so I have access to that when I get back and pay off the credit card in full.

I have yet to find anywhere that 'doesn't take credit cards'. Not even to withdraw cash with? Hmm.

Bollocks!

I'm sorry but I don't believe this for a minute. Is the whole story made up to get a response?

It's just so ludicrous that if it's true, you OP I'm afraid are an idiot. You must have known this bloke is also an idiot but a scheming one.

He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country.

Also bollocks. Even if true he can call his bank and ask them to make it work.

I might wonder if there is something wrong with him as that is such ridiculous behaviour.

How long have you been together and did you discuss finances before going on holiday?

I’m sure I’ve read very similar before.

I never take cash abroad either. Only ever use my credit card.

Where are you that he can't use a credit card?

Perhaps he really did think he was able to use a card hence not taking cash.

Credit card probably doesn't work because it's been maxed out. 🙄