How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

[Iwilldestroyyou345]

You'd booked the flights and accommodation in advance. He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country. Has savings of several thousand but couldn't even dip into them for say £100.

Obviously dipping into savings is unwise, but knowingly going abroad with 0 spending money is unfair to the other person no?

Why is dipping into savings for a holiday unwise? And what remote desert are you in credit cards dont work?

I’d assume he’s full of shit because the only country I’ve ever been to where my credit card didn’t work (and even then it was only in a few places that it didn’t) was Japan.
Id also assume he was cool with not eating and drinking all week since he didn’t bring any money with him. I certainly wouldn’t be funding his holiday

If all the sensible options don’t work, get him to buy Amazon/supermarket vouchers online to give to you in exchange for cash

If someone did that to me I would think I was being punished for organising a holiday that they didn't whole heartedly want to be on. Maybe they resented booking annual leave or 'having' to use savings. Or maybe the relationship was going a bit too quick for them or they wanted to watch football.
It just seems like, you organised it, you pay for it vibe.

I'd think " what a twat"
He's acting like a child expecting you to give him pocket money
Who doesn't think about money they'll need on holiday! Especially as you've paid for booking etc
It would take the shine off the holiday for me
Is he usually a sponger?
Does he normally lack initiative?

Cuba doesn’t accept Mastercard / maestro
or they didn’t for many years accept any American back cards and I doubt if it’s changed

Two years ago with RBS ... I was surprised myself, but that was the advice their telephone centre gave

What is be saying to you? Is he expecting you to sub him or is he trying to sort something out. He could even ask someone to send money via western Union or something.

whats his excuse?

it sounds like he has been monumentally stupid but not necessarily in a malicious way

I'd feel used and angry

I would think they were a mean CF who thought I was a mug to be used.
I would know that they cared little for me.

I would realise that he is a scammer, I would make an excuse to get away and then remove myself from the situation.

yes this. what's his plan. that you'll pay for him throughout the trip? How unattractive.

A few options...he rings his bank and asks for access to use abroad, he goes into his current account overdraft (rings the bank to arrange one if he doesn't have an overdraft) or he sits in the room being bored and hungry for a week

Really? That's some benefit of the doubt.

Agree. But there is a chance he’s only 18 and never stood on his own two feet or been abroad without his mum. Very unlikely I admit.

I'd tell him to call is parents or siblings to transfer him money. You are not a bank. If you need money you withdraw it from your savings you don't try to doing of your girlfriend/ partner.

I've been to outer Mongolia and was still able to use a credit card in a few places and certainly was able to get cash out with it!

Acc to Natwest, there are currently only a handful of countries that do not take visa or mastercard (Cuba, Iran, Burma (commonly known as Myanmar), North Korea, Sudan, Syria), so I would seriously question whether the issue is that he doesn’t actually have any credit on his cards or money in his bank account as both cards should work.

He may need to go on line and notify both card providers that he abroad, but he can do that on his phone. Or does that also not work where you are?

"ooops, lol, what a coincidence I also forgot to bring any cash and my credit card doesn't work either"
Fight fire with fire and grift the grifter.

Well...depends. did he know the card won't work there? How did he react when he found out? Does the card not actually work or does he claim it doesn't? Does he usually expect you to pay or is this the first time and he's mortified?

I had a family member who tried a similar trick and claimed all their money was in a fixed-term deposit account.

(I made enquiries and found they would lose 3 months interest on the amount withdrawn, so effectively a few percent charge, but not impossible)

I don't suppose it was true anyway.

I'd be googling it to check!

Are you staying there @Iwilldestroyyou345? I think I'd be coming home and not mentioning to them where I'd gone.

They had better phone the bank straight away.

Didn't he bring his debit card with him? That's odd. And why can't he use his credit card? Most are universal. I can understand but taking much cash but to go with no means at all is very strange