How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

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You'd booked the flights and accommodation in advance. He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country. Has savings of several thousand but couldn't even dip into them for say £100.

Obviously dipping into savings is unwise, but knowingly going abroad with 0 spending money is unfair to the other person no?

I’ve also been in several countries who take mastercard, visa and amex. Unless you are literally in a war zone so the little machines aren’t working he’s taking the piss.

This Do they have online banking? Can they transfer you some money?

He's not going to survive very long without food or water.

I suggest checking with him that he's got good travel insurance for when you have to call him an Ambulance.

Not a partner- more of a user

This. Mastercard and visa are accepted the world over. Amex is a little less universal but most large hotels will take it.

Complete sponging.

Did he come abroad expecting you to pay for everything? Or was he planning on using his credit card to pay for stuff and is now finding out it doesn't work.

It can happen that cards won't work abroad with certain banks or retailers, it's happened to me a few times both at ATMs and trying to pay for stuff in restaurants etc. That's why I always bring at least two cards from different providers and also have an emergency stash of local currency.

Editing to say that if he just tried it in one machine or shop and it didn't work, then he should keep trying in other ATM machines from other banks, he'll find one where it works eventually.

Judgy much? lol

Agree. How do so many of the women of Mumsnet end up with such massive tools?

How would I feel if my partner came on holiday with no spending money? I'd feel that they must have had a brain injury or a breakdown or something. I would hugely concerned about their mental state.

I can't ever imagine as an adult preparing to go on holiday and thinking I don't need to change up some cash, I won't bother checking if my credit card works in this county (which is utter shit, hy the way) and someone else can pick up the tab for me.

This is your future op, is that want you really want?

any children involved op?

Dipping into savings isn't "unwise". Paying for nice things is what savings is for

Find a nice, big spiral bound notebook and a red pen in a shop.

Make a point of writing down every single thing you buy for him. Main meals only. Wouldn't want him to starve.

You didn't bring money? No ice cream for you, matey.
Oops. Looks like beer isn't free either. Do you want ice in that tap water?
See how long it is until that credit card magically unfreezes or he can find a buddy in the UK to send some money via Western Union.

Present him with the account when you get back to the UK and then walk away.

I would say "I'm heading out for a walk, leave you to phone bank or whatever you need to do to sort out some money. See you in a while."

It's his problem to figure out.

That's possible if they've not set it up this way, but nobody has all their money in a savings account, and even if they did they could arrange to take some out before the holiday

Again, just how new is this relationship OP?

This is insanity. He's obviously lying.

So how are they expecting to pay for things? Are they assuming you are going to put your hand in your pocket every time.

So he’s broke and has no money in a current account?!

It’s so rude and disrespectful to expect you to pay

Credit cards aren't as widely accepted in all countries as here. I've benn to fairly tourist areas in both Germany and Austria where only cash was accepted. And not all Mastercard/ visa cards are the same. I know some people have had trouble in French petrol stations. It can depend on the issuer. But this is why you never only take one form of access to money.

visa it’s everywhere you want to be…that was their slogan for a very long time. Op
ask him….how did you intend to purchase food/ water/ enter exhibits??! Ask and wait for it….he will say credit card. Ok it doesn’t work…what are YOU going to do? Let dp
sort this. Tell dp simply directly and honestly..I cannot afford to bank roll your entire holiday…surely you know that? And if it creates tension or sulking ensues then go off on your own with your money and holiday while rethinking the CHARACTER traits you desire in a dp because I’m sure creating a financial Emergency due to zero planning is not one of them. It’s ok if the card doesn’t work but dp can’t just 🤷🏻‍♂️and expect you to now pay.

So what does he say ?

Sounds like a him problem. Just ask him "So what are you going to do?". If he asks to borrow from you, agree a set amount and the exact date he will pay it back (if you can afford it). Don't get pressured into paying for him here and there otherwise you'll never see that money again.

Was it deliberate or did he assume his credit card would work?

Sucks to be him. Dump him and enjoy your holiday, he's obviously not boyfriend material.

So he’s got no money in current account that he can access? Seems unlikely.

It’s his problem to resolve anyway. Leave him to it I say.

I'd think he was a fucking idiot.

And a liar.